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dzwitch
04-13-2011, 06:59 AM
Hi all:

One of the ways to get a good pain in the balls is by not cumming after several days of regular sex. One of my former girlfriends enjoyed it very much, she even asked me about the state of my balls very often, and she was quite pleased each time I told her I was in pain. She had great orgasms and she was really turned on when she knew she would orgasm but I wouldn't cum.

There are a lot of tease&denial videos on the net, but I'm not really interested in them: she rarely gets any pleasure (just jerking off the boy) and all that domination stuff (you're such a bad boy - yes mistress) really turns me off. Rarely, I was able to find videos of regular sex in which she cums but he withdraws without cumming, just with a big erection.

So my question is: Do you now if there's any place where I can find videos like that?

I tried in places like Empflix and xnxx by using keywords like "hold cum", "don't cum", "without cumming", but they're just videos in which she says something like "don't cum in my mouth" and he ends up cumming in her mouth, really disappointing :-D

Alec Anaconda
04-13-2011, 08:12 AM
I suggest you try these search keys:

Tantric Sex

Neotantra

Orgasm control



Alec Anaconda

dzwitch
04-13-2011, 08:41 AM
I suggest you try these search keys:

Tantric Sex

Neotantra

Orgasm control



Alec Anaconda

Thank you for your answer. I already tried, but the problem is that "tantric" and "tantra" (0 results with neotantra) just offer access to a couple of well known video tutorials I've seen a thousand times :) (they have an annoying sweet music and candles everywhere but at least they offer something) plus videos in which the man ends up cumming anyway. And "orgasm control" gives access to the same old videos you can find with "tease & denial" (a woman always jerking off a man to the boredom) plus fake-plastic videos of women being "controlled" in their orgasm; at least in the places I know: empflix, xnxx, youporn, pornhub, xhamster and few more.

BTW if they offer final ballbusting instead of cumming they're ok too :-D

One from the Vaults
04-13-2011, 11:18 AM
If you're doing tantric practices right it doesn't hurt. The pain is caused by the energy you create through arousal stagnating in your testicles and prostate... this is very unhealthy and can lead to prostate cancer long term. The point of the tantric stuff is that, while you can't just keep that energy there, there's another option than releasing it out: so you learn techniques by which you draw it up and cycle it through the body.

It's pretty interesting and powerful stuff. Appeals to people obsessed with their testicles because it recognises them as the source of your power, etc... but doesn't really involve pain. If it hurts you're fucking it up somehow.

smackMyNuts
04-13-2011, 07:08 PM
If you're doing tantric practices right it doesn't hurt. The pain is caused by the energy you create through arousal stagnating in your testicles and prostate... this is very unhealthy and can lead to prostate cancer long term.

Please don't make up medical advice. There's no sound medical reason to believe that pent up "energy" causes cancer. Blue balls also isn't caused by a build up of energy in the balls, but rather a build up of blood.

One from the Vaults
04-13-2011, 08:29 PM
You're over simplifying it. There are other fluids than just blood involved, for starters.

pulleddown
04-14-2011, 04:42 AM
There actually is related data on relieving prostate of fluids

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/3072021.stm

One from the Vaults
04-14-2011, 10:39 AM
Exactly. The further claim with the tantric stuff is that there's another way than just ejaculation to prevent this build-up. For that claim... how would you design a scientific experiment to demonstrate it? It may be possible to demonstrate, but would be very difficult to (too many confounds, too small sample sizes), so there's no empirical data on the matter, just the claims of various gurus and their disciples that it can be done and has benefits.

Anyway, my point was just that you're not going to use tantra to cause pain, because the whole point of tantra is to provide an alternative to ejaculation which will also prevent the pain/damage, while at the same time not wasting your sexual energy by expending it.

dzwitch
04-14-2011, 12:21 PM
Well, thank you for your advices. Anyway I was looking for videos, I don't think I'll get a cencer by watching them :D

I don't even care if their actors cum after the video recording if they want to. Just offscreen, please.

sloguy
04-14-2011, 04:59 PM
what fun is it if it doesnt cause pain in the balls.

smackMyNuts
04-15-2011, 09:39 PM
Exactly. The further claim with the tantric stuff is that there's another way than just ejaculation to prevent this build-up. For that claim... how would you design a scientific experiment to demonstrate it? It may be possible to demonstrate, but would be very difficult to (too many confounds, too small sample sizes), so there's no empirical data on the matter, just the claims of various gurus and their disciples that it can be done and has benefits.

If you know that there is no evidence for these claims, then why would you repeat them as if they were medical facts? Whatever the gurus say, they have no reason at all to believe that tantric practices having any impact at all on cancer rates. That's not the sort of thing which can be established using anecdotal evidence. Just because it's hard to falsify doesn't mean that we should accept it as true or that it's not irresponsible to repeat it to others as fact. I can believe that tantric practices may well reduce or relieve the condition of blue balls, and even that that could be scientifically demonstrated. But there's no evidence linking blue balls to cancer. The article he posted only links frequent ejaculation with better prostate health. You could get blue-balls repeatedly and then ejaculate each time. Blue balls comes from no ejaculating right then, not from infrequent ejaculation. So it's not really relevant to the issue and doesn't establish any link between blue balls and cancer at all. So don't make medical claims when you don't have evidence to back them up! It's irresponsible.

And, also, the article he posted talks about the most likely reason for the cancer decrease being that the release of prostate fluid sweeping toxins out of the prostate. Since tantric practices don't involve releasing the prostate fluid, how exactly is it that you would claim that they might also be removing the toxins?

One from the Vaults
04-15-2011, 10:19 PM
When did I make a dangerous claim as a medical fact? Did I at some point identify myself as a doctor, and then advise somebody to pursue a particular practice? I've just said that tantric practice is SUPPOSED to do exactly what it's supposed to do -- you're acting like it's unethical to describe the claims they make at face value. Seeing as I never even took a side on what they're saying, nor described and recommended a specific technique, it's not medical advice... it's education.

Remember, they're not talking about cancer specifically: they're saying that stagnation is bad, and, like you, will point to the scientific evidence that fluid stagnation leads to cancer as an example of this. Then they claim that it's possible to reabsorb the fluids, rather than expel them, and recycle their constituents through the body with a variety of health benefits. This, of course, has not and probably could not be proven, but fluid reabsorption is not totally unheard of... the questionable parts are whether it's possible to actually control and instigate such a reabsorption using the techniques they proscribe, and what the health effects of doing so might be. The anecdotal evidence is that it's possible to gain health benefits from doing practices which involve consciously trying to recycle those fluids -- whether they actually ARE recycling those fluids, or merely think they are (and whether there's actually a health benefit), has not been conclusively proven.