How to turn a vanilla partner into a Ballbuster!

[BeatMyBallsHard]

Well after a long long time with my ex - a total ballbusting bitch (& a total nightmare personally!) I have a new partner, been with her just over a year.

I'm glad to say she now enjoys biting my balls hard, & will kick me if I ask.

I'd like to open up discussion about how to get a vanilla partner into BB - of course if they are immediately turned off, then not ******* them, but I think MOST women could be into it.

Personally I think that it's about them not wanting to hurt yuou, so by not screaming, or making appreciative noises like when getting a blowjob, she doesn't think she is causing pain, so will go harder if you gently ask.

I've got my girl to start biting really hard this way - if she thought she was actually hurting me she would probably back off...

Discuss...

[obedientesticle]

I've got my girl to start biting really hard this way - if she thought she was actually hurting me she would probably back off...


Do you get turned on by the pain or by the domination? And what does SHE think about it? Is she just doing a favour or did she dicover a sadistic streak?

And if you really get hurt some day, suppressing your pain signals, won't she be shocked and feeling bad?

[BeatMyBallsHard]

Personally it's a bit of both - mainly the pain though. She enjoys biting, but I think she kicks more for my pleasure. She certainly doesn't DISlike it though!!

She still doesn't go hard enough to actually damage me.

I see a lot of comments from people on here saying "I wish I could get my girl to do ballbusting..." etc. so I figured a discussion would be good.

Obviously I'm not advocating anything non-consensual, but most women will do this stuff if it's within their comfort zone.

[balla68]

I have gotten a couple girls somehwhat into it by just being straight up with them after knowing them for about 6 months to a year one has no problem going hard on me while the other is still pretty timid.

[dmntd]

My girl is the same way, never going hard enough to do some damage but enough to the point where she knows I feel it. I started her with squeezing and just told her im not as sensitive and that it feels good. Then I just worked her up to pulling, hitting and the occasional knee or kick when Im going down on her. Usually after a night at the bar she'll get rougher (and me as well) and we have a good time in bed.

[Alec Anaconda]

If BB is more important, to you, than straight sex, why not raise the subject before getting involved?

Alec Anaconda

[BeatMyBallsHard]

Surely the topic of Ballbusting isn't a good thing to bring up in the "getting to know you" stage.

I did so once after a girl I was dating said she kicked a guy there once, but turns out she wasn't interested in doing it sexually at all, & it became an issue & was blown out of proportion before we even got naked.

I am really pleased with what my girlfriend does, & she really likes biting my balls :)

It took a while to get there though...

Anyone else' experiences?

[Alec Anaconda]

Life is short.

I don't want the,
"You want me to do WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!" in the bedroom.

Alec Anaconda

[obedientesticle]

Life is short.

I don't want the,
"You want me to do WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!" in the bedroom.

Alec Anaconda

- so your solution is to ask for ballbusting at the first date ? :Baahaha:

[skweezme]

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Personally I think that it's about them not wanting to hurt you, so by not screaming, or making appreciative noises like when getting a blowjob, she doesn't think she is causing pain, so will go harder if you gently ask.
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That's exactly what worked for me BMBH. Not difficult to channel the pain into making appreciative noises. Bit of a liberation!

But bringing the subject up in the first place is tricky, as other posters have said. Most girls will play with a guy's balls at some point. Asking for a gentle ball-massage would maybe not sound too pervy but might be nice. Then you could ask her to go harder as she notices your obvious enjoyment (and appreciative noises!)

[Alec Anaconda]

- so your solution is to ask for ballbusting at the first date ? :Baahaha:

I'm not promiscuous!

Before I have sex, I want to know a lot about a woman, including her attitude to BDSM.

Alec Anaconda

[obedientesticle]

I'm not promiscuous!

Before I have sex, I want to know a lot about a woman, including her attitude to BDSM.

Alec Anaconda

OK, so you just plan your relationship. Is it successful? Do you look on the internet? Where?

The other way is to just getting to know people whom you like or find attractive in real life - and then you discover or reveal your fetish. This way, you usually find people who are less "professional" in their lovelife.

With your way, Alec, I think, you will find some wrecked crazy people or some women who want money for it. As a dominant, strong woman with a femdom fetish will usually discover that she can have the fun AND the money.

What's your opinion?

[Alec Anaconda]

OK, so you just plan your relationship. Is it successful? Do you look on the internet? Where?

The other way is to just getting to know people whom you like or find attractive in real life - and then you discover or reveal your fetish. This way, you usually find people who are less "professional" in their lovelife.

With your way, Alec, I think, you will find some wrecked crazy people or some women who want money for it. As a dominant, strong woman with a femdom fetish will usually discover that she can have the fun AND the money.

What's your opinion?

It's a vey long time since I went on a "first date".

Maybe I've been lucky, but I've not found nuts or whores.

I've never tried internet dating.

Thinking back, I suppose I just had a knack of recognising like-minded women (I give as well as take).

How about you?

Alec Anaconda

[obedientesticle]

It's a vey long time since I went on a "first date".

Maybe I've been lucky, but I've not found nuts or whores.

I've never tried internet dating.

Thinking back, I suppose I just had a knack of recognising like-minded women (I give as well as take).

How about you?

Alec Anaconda

Not much experience of any kind the last time. I once had a girlfriend who liked to play with males, but we had quite normal sex. I like it as a fantasy and would not like it to disturb a good relationship as I like to form a team with or talk to someone equal. But my fantasy goes further and if I could find a girl with some understanding how far to go or maybe some contact for a bit of fun, I would probably like it. Maybe someone to share a fantasy in healthy reality, a real "unhealthy" domme in fantasy... Probably not easy to achieve, if not impossible... Well, life is not a porn video and maybe it would be better to live without a fetish and be vanilla - but I do not have the feeling that it's completely a matter of choice. The fetish disturbs and delights, its kind of a fight of good and evil... So if you don't see me here any more, I've become a sheep or I'm in prison... (or on a eunuch farm in femdom land :Baahaha:)

[Prime]

My ex leapt on board with gusto, she'd gently smack me in the nuts at parties and we'd go into the toilets for a quickie. But she was mental. Sometimes, in bed and watching a DVD, she'd reach over, give me a squeeze and get me aroused then give me the hardest slap in the world and all thoughts of sex would instantly leave me. (Whilst I find percussive BB erotic to watch in videos and in stories I do not find it erotic in real life, I prefer the threat of percussive BB or a good squeeze.) I followed a similar tact to the OPs suggestion with my new lass. Returing home after a birthday party and a little worse for wear we started to fool around, she went down on me for the first time and wanted some advice, so I said play with my balls :) After establishing that I like my balls played with during foreplay a few times I've slowly got her to ramp up the squeezing with appreciative noises and sometimes now she squeezes quite hard.

[try]

I have heard it said that if, in playful wrestling, a guy grabs the tits, most girls will go for the balls. There was an account, on the now sadly defunct Yahoo 360, from an amateur lady wrestler, who told of when she was training with a male wrestler, he, er well, took liberties with his hands, and she lost her temper and kneed him so hard he was sick.

[BeatMyBallsHard]

OK, I really don't think it's a good idea to come right out with it first thing - I think it'd be taken as a) creepy b) desparate c) objectifying for a woman

I definitely think bringing it up slowly, starting with massage etc. helps...

also once she's into it, if she likes biting them, shave the balls as a surprise for her, she will chew them for hours! :wooow