This Is A Fetish Forum

[ricky]

I've noticed for sometime, and more so recently in spite of the lack of activity, people complaining about content that doesn't align with their specific fetish. Remember, this is a fetish forum. Fetishes are deviations from normal sexuality. If you don't like something, don't read any further at the first hint that you don't like it.

I don't like dungeon/needles/licking up your own cum and other related stuff. It's going to be there for the people that do. I understand this.

Remember that first time you went online and felt that sense of relief that others shared a fetish you thought you held alone?

[<3amandapalmer]

I've noticed for sometime, and more so recently in spite of the lack of activity, people complaining about content that doesn't align with their specific fetish. Remember, this is a fetish forum. Fetishes are deviations from normal sexuality. If you don't like something, don't read any further at the first hint that you don't like it.

I don't like dungeon/needles/licking up your own cum and other related stuff. It's going to be there for the people that do. I understand this.

Remember that first time you went online and felt that sense of relief that others shared a fetish you thought you held alone?

i completely agree. i have many fetishes, and ive noticed that on this site people regularly criticize others for having some of the same ones i do. i, personally dont handle criticism well at all, but it is upsetting for everybody to be criticized for something that they have no control over.

but people here are criticizing others for certain fetishes when they themselves are here to explore a fetish that isn't "socially acceptable" either.

[carnivorous_daisy]

Agreed. People in glass houses and all that.

We must accept ourselves, and we must accept others, while at the same time using good judgement and clear language in understanding and expressing layers of appropriateness. This is indeed a fetish forum, and while it can't be all things to all people we can at least be considerate of others as we would like others to be considerate of us.

If someone were to post ballbusting material on a forum which is dedicated to lesbian sex then the poster cannot be reasonably surprised when the post is rightfully deleted as it's off topic. This does not mean the person who reports or deletes the post is anti-bb, for they very well could enjoy bb, regardless, that doesn't make the post relevant.

Likewise if a person were to post homosexual, maledom, or bukkake material on this forum it would also be out of place(as it's called Femaledom), and it's the responsibility of the members of the community to voice such things in a way that is considerate and diplomatic. I personally have a collection of bukkake videos, but this forum is not the place for them, nor am I offended by that. I simply seek out other avenues which are more appropriate for those expressions. I do not post off topic material then after the inevitable backlash slander this forum calling it anti-bukkake when the material was inappropriate to post here in the first place. That's childish.

Having said that, there is a very distinct difference between expressing inappropriateness and being a bigot. This is where a lot of confusion seems to happen. I don't need to name names. We all know who the major offenders are. And while I am personally not a homosexual I am also not offended by their existence. What does offend me are attitudes of intolerance, which seems to polarize those whom might otherwise be moderate, creating unnecessary schisms and disharmony, leading to further aggressions on both sides, leading to further escalations and disharmony. No reasonable person wants that.

So to summarize, life is short, and the oblivions on either side are very large indeed. Let's at least try to get along while we're here.

[Alec Anaconda, A1]

People in glass houses and all that.

..life is short, and the oblivions on either side are very large indeed. Let's at least try to get along while we're here.

I agree, carnivorous_daisy.



Likewise if a person were to post homosexual, maledom, or bukkake material on this forum it would also be out of place(as it's called Femaledom),...

Ok, this colection of forums exists under the Femaledom banner, but this is Ballbusting World.

Do you see a problem if men ejaculate on a woman due her ballbusting actions? I don’t.

I also don’t consider all M/M BB action as gay. Where is the harm in male action, provided it is clearly marked within the thead heading?

[carnivorous_daisy]

"Ok, this colection of forums exists under the Femaledom banner, but this is Ballbusting World.

Do you see a problem if men ejaculate on a woman due her ballbusting actions? I don’t.

I also don’t consider all M/M BB action as gay. Where is the harm in male action, provided it is clearly marked within the thead heading?"

All good points. This seems to be where definitions of appropriateness should be sorted out because many videos contain overlaps of several different genres. For example, there's a particular video starring Asa Akira where she punches a guy while he cums on her. Does that belong on this forum? It would seem so as it has bb in it, despite the inclusion of other genres within the video. Would it be appropriate to post something from Milky Cat? If it contained ballbusting then yes. The same applies for gay material. If it has ballbusting in it then it technically fits within this genre, and, like anything else, should be described as clearly as possible.

I don't enjoy anything to do with strap on, but there are many good bb videos which include that sort of thing(Men In Pain, for example). Should they not be posted here because a portion of it's content doesn't fit within this genre? That's a rather glass-is-half-empty way of looking at things. As long as things are clearly defined, contain an aspect of the associated content, and everything is nicely sorted then there doesn't seem a problem.

I'm also a member of "kickedinthegroin.ning", and on that site there is both ballbusting and cuntbusting. I don't see a problem with the inclusion of cuntbusting as the name of the site is kickedinthegroin, not kickedintheballs. If the name of the site were the latter then the inclusion of cuntbusting would seem(to me) inappropriate. Perhaps I'm too semantically literal.

[sunk]

I agree. Sometimes a little more tolerance from people is in order. I've ran into people in other places who get upset if someone posts something they don't see as "great". This is ridiculous if you think about it. It's as if people think the entire world revolves around them and everyone is contributing to the site for their own personal enjoyment and nothing else! Worse yet most of the time the contributions are completely free.

[carnivorous_daisy]

I agree. Sometimes a little more tolerance from people is in order. I've ran into people in other places who get upset if someone posts something they don't see as "great". This is ridiculous if you think about it. It's as if people think the entire world revolves around them and everyone is contributing to the site for their own personal enjoyment and nothing else! Worse yet most of the time the contributions are completely free.

Exactly. There is plenty of content on this very site that I'm not interested in, but should my preferences dictate what other people should be interested in? No way. And the same goes in the reverse. As long as things are clearly labeled for what they are so that people can seek out what they're into and avoid that which they're not will help to minimize unnecessary conflict.

Imagine a menu with no names, descriptions, or pictures of the food you're ordering, only numbers and a price. This can be understandably frustrating for anyone, but especially so if a person is seeking out a particular taste.

[squeezemyballsplease]

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I also don’t consider all M/M BB action as gay. Where is the harm in male action, provided it is clearly marked within the thead heading?"
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The thing is, that even if we are in the "ballbusting section" here, it still is a FEMALEDOM forum.

I for my part don't want to see men dominating over other men.

[vela73]

The thing is, that even if we are in the "ballbusting section" here, it still is a FEMALEDOM forum.

I for my part don't want to see men dominating over other men.

I'm not in to male/male action, myself, either. That doesn't mean that I think others should be deprived of sharing and talking about that content just so that I don't have to be reminded that it exists. It's easy enough to ignore if you're not interested.

I don't think pointing out the "femaledom" part of it is a solid argument, anyway. ******-bi, after all, has a large presence in the femdom fetish and that's usually conducted by a female.

Plenty of people have made it clear that they want some warning for links to male homosexual content, and that warning is usually present. I think that's good enough.

I wouldn't support a movement to cleanse this subforum of all homosexual ballbusting, and as a matter of fact, I'd probably like this place a lot less if such a movement succeeded.

[skweezme]

This website's for those interested in "FemaleDom", surely? The name's a giveaway. Other fetishes are welcome as long as there's some femdom included. It's not just a generic fetish forum.

[carnivorous_daisy]

The thing is, that even if we are in the "ballbusting section" here, it still is a FEMALEDOM forum.

I for my part don't want to see men dominating over other men.

I believe the quote you're attributing to me was from Alec Anaconda.

[sicko666]

Everyone has valid points...Personally i think its just a case of descriptions...After all if it says it is Male BB then why would someone not into Male BB dl and watch it and then complain? Personally i think ALL links shared are fantastic because there "shared" with the intent for others enjoyment, again its just descriptions that are confusing and shocking some.
Of course it would be impossible to label everything in great detail, but if something is Male BB then that is definetly a main feature of the share, but again, its the fact its an actual "share" so why such hostility? I praise ALL the sharers of the net, even if its not in my area of interest, thank you sharers, ALL of you!!!!:ibow4u::thumbup:iluvu::iluvu::iluvu::iluvu :

[Castratrix's pet]

Like the title of this thread says, this is a fetish forum. Fetishes are like the old saying about trash and treasure, one person's trash is another person's treasure. I have posted very few complaints on this forum. I have very specific fantasies and fetishes and have posted about them enough that everyone here knows all about them, but I try never to complain about or find fault with other people's fantasies and fetishes.

There are threads here that don't turn me on or interest me at all, so I don't go to them. If others go to them and enjoy them then fine, I'm glad they are happy.

I think it is very simple. If you want others to respect your fantasies and fetishes then you have to respect theirs. That does not mean you have to like them too. It just means you respecting their right to have and enjoy and even post about their fantasies and fetishes. I think it's that way with lots of things. If you want people to respect your feelings then you have to respect theirs.

[Richter]

Why is there no porn in this thread?

[dark]

Why is there no porn in this thread?

here...
This is a fetish forum after-all...

[blkpatent]

True but this is a ballbusting forum. I don't come here for other fetishes, if I wanted that I'd got to other fetish forums.

Personally there are even certain forms of ballbusting I don't like too but at least it's still on the subject and I can just find the things I like in other threads but I certainly don't want to see spitting, M/M action or anything else that isn't CFNM ballbusting.

[Richter]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FUKxxpaR5V0

Just for you, blkpatent. Some red hot spitting M&M action.

[mick_sl8ter]

People on this forum have a good sense of humor :thumbup
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_NnlgXdg0iq4/TLy_9keqWsI/AAAAAAAAAAc/X8AiTV0d-gs/s1600/CA_group.jpg

[ricky]

Lol at sarcasm/logical fallacies revealing bitter intolerance.

[Richter]

Yeah, a fetish forum is definitely the arena you want to get out that Intro to Psychology class you once took and flex it a little.

:thumbup

[ricky]

So many big "psych" words I put in there!

Psst... Crying on this forum is only cool if you've been hit in the stones.

[jabby]

People on this forum have a good sense of humor :thumbup


To be fair, watching intolerant bigoted people throw tantrums when they realize they can't control other people's lives is pretty hilarious.

[Richter]

Let the record show that ricky is waaaaay smarter than us and really showed us.

[ricky]

Us? I suppose I fed the troll a bit too much and now he's had babies?

[Richter]

Also, his grammar is so much better than mine.

[ricky]

Last word. I win!

[Richter]

Congratulations.