Did I make the right decision and say NO to the vasectomy? Any thoughts?

[rona778899]

My wife kicked me full force once. She treated my balls with TLC before our family was complete. Later in our marriage after our family was complete, we got into some mild ballbusting and squeezing to spice things up.

My wife went to her OB/GYN for a routine checkup. Her doctor tried to convince her that I should have a vasectomy. I think she is telling that to her patients that have their family complete. She does not want them on birth control and thinks the male should get snipped. My wife has PCOS and infertility. She had to take the very expensive super ovulation drugs to get pregnant. I told her I am not having a vasectomy, I would if you did not have infertility. I told her you are not going to get pregnant on your own at age 40 if you could not at 30. A vasectomy is not as simply as snip snip, it changes a man's plumbing. I don't think her OB/GYN knew her complete infertility history.

My wife seemed very upset that I would not go in for the V. We went out that next evening for dinner and drinks. My wife gets aggressive when she drinks alcohol. After we got home, we headed to the bedroom for an intimate session. My wife told me she wanted to kick my balls. I agreed and thought she would give me a couple of light kicks before intercourse. I was aroused and stood in front her totally nude, fully erect with my legs spread open to give her a clear shot. My wife is a large strong woman. She then kicked me as hard as she could driving her size 12 bare foot square in my nut sack.

I have never been hit down there with near that kind of force. I felt a jolt go through my body and then started to double over in pain. I immediately flopped on top of the bed. It was like letting the air out of a balloon with my erection. I went from being rock hard to totally limp in about 20 seconds. As soon as I became totally limp, both my testicles start throbbing with deep intense pain. I curled up in the fetal position and cupped and held my nuts. I now know why guys hold themselves after being hard hit down there. It helps somewhat with the pain. If I let go the grip on my nuts, the pain increased. I was totally incapacitated for at least 20 minutes.

I was pissed at my wife for kicking me full force. She did get ice for my balls which seemed to help the pain and think prevented them was swelling up. My nads were sore for about 3 days. My wife was sorry for kicking me. She said she did it because she was mad at me for not willing to have the big V. She also said it was a fantasy of hers to kick my nuts with full force. She promised me she would never unwilling hit my balls hard again unless she catches me fooling around with another woman.

About a year later, a woman at my work wanted to fool around with me. My balls reminded me DON'T DO IT. I respect her power that she can hurt me bad after being kicked in the nuts full force.

I think I made the right decision saying NO to the vasectomy. I paid the price. My right testicle is now more pain sensation after being kicked. Anyone else have that problem? Any opinions especially from the women on this board. We still love each other.

[basedball]

Why would a doctor try to convince her that? I would change that doctor immediately or who knows what would he try to convince her next time.

[rona778899]

Her OB/GYN doctor is a female.

[Fritzama]

What's the big deal about having it done? Are long range planning for another family? I had it done 18yrs ago....

[Alec Anaconda, A1]

I guess you are in your forties, so an unplanned pregnancy would be a big deal.

Fertility does not play by the rules, as so many post-menopausal / post IVF women have found to their dismay.

Many women don’t play by the rules; they claim to be protected but just want a baby. Perhaps the woman at work was like this; who knows?

Unless you really want, and can afford, more kids, man up and get the vasectomy, you’ll function just as well as before.

As to your wife, make it perfectly clear that you will not tolerate her causing you any more actual bodily harm, under any circumstances whatsoever.

And, why have you not had your right ball checked out?

[mick_sl8ter]

Don't do it ! It is unnatural.

[rona778899]

In response to Alec, I did mention my testicular pain to my MD. I did not mention my ball busting fetish or being kicked full force. She ordered a scrotal ultrasound which was a memorable experience.

I had to work with my doctor's nurse to setup a time at the ultrasound clinic. They set me up with a late morning appointment 3 days after my medical visit. I arrived at the clinic and checked in at the ultrasound department. A pregnant woman checked in front of me. After I checked in I sat down in the lobby wondering who my ultrasound tech would be. A few minutes later, the door opened and a 50 year old looking Caucasian woman came out. She called the name of the pregnant woman that checked in before me. Three or four minutes later the door opened again, it looked like another pregnant woman patient leaving. I think pregnant women are most of this clinics ultrasound patients. About 5 minutes later the door opened again, out came a 25 year old looking Caucasian woman. She was very beautiful and wearing the same uniform as the 50 year old. She called my name.

She greeted me and took me back to a ultrasound room. She said she will be doing the ultrasound of both my right and left testicles. She handed me a thin sheet and pillow. She told me to get naked from the waist down, leave my socks on and then lay down on the table. She left the room and I took off my pants and underwear and got on top to the table and covered my privates with the sheet. I said to myself this is going to be hard to hold the boy down.

She knocked on the door and asked if I was ready, I said yes and she came in. She started by asking me questions. Have you every had an ultrasound, I said no. What is the reason for the ultrasound, any masses or lumps? I said no, it was for testicular pain. She asked if I had any recent trauma to the testicles. I lied and said no. She told me to put my feet in the stirrups and then she sat in her chair next to me and the ultrasound machine.

She removed the sheet exposing my privates. The room was very warm and my balls were loose. She flipped my totally limp penis upwards so it was pointing towards my navel. She then covered my penis with a towel. She then put her hand under my scrotum and lifted up my balls and placed a tightly wound up towel underneath them. She was very pleasant to talk to and seemed to have sweet flirty personality. She explained everything she was doing during the procedure. Before staring the ultrasound, she squirted warmed up ultrasound gel on my scrotum and rubbed it in. She said she wanted to first take images of both my boys together. After that she moved to the right testicle moving the the transducer probe back and forth over my testicle. After she was done wit the right testicle she moved to the left.



She took many images to my testicles from different positions, images of my epididymides and spermatic cords. She took live Doppler video of blood flow to my testicles. She also took measurements of my testicles which was part to the exam. My balls were close in size with my right being slightly larger. My right testicle was 5.4 x 3.9 x 2.4 centimeters. I think that is the length, width and height. I asked her it that is normal size. She said my testicles were large in size. She said she measured some guy's testicles the were not swollen at over 6 CM in length.

The procedure lasted about 20 minutes. I was having the urge to get and erection but managed to keep the boy down. She was moving my balls around and about half way through the procedure she pressed down hard on my right testicle with the transducer prob which seemed to flatten it. She asked me if that hurts. I said no, that was all the stimulus I could take and up she went. I saw the towel covering my penis rising up. When she was finished, I was popping a tent with a hard erection. She looked at me with a smirk on her face and said there are towels by the sink to clean the gel off before I get dressed. She said the radiologist will contact my doctor with the results.

When I walked out the the room, she was sitting at a desk in a room next to the room I had the exam. There was a large screen monitor on the desk and she had a cross section image of one of my testicles on the screen. The radiologist did not find any abnormalities with my testicle, except my right epididymide had some minor blood pooling which might be causing the pain. My doctor thought I might be developing epididymitis and prescribed the antibiotic Cipro. The Cipro did not seemed to help any.

[Alec Anaconda, A1]

In response to Alec, I did mention my testicular pain to my MD. I did not mention my ball busting fetish or being kicked full force. She ordered a scrotal ultrasound which was a memorable experience.

I had to work with my doctor's nurse to setup a time at the ultrasound clinic. They set me up with a late morning appointment 3 days after my medical visit. I arrived at the clinic and checked in at the ultrasound department. A pregnant woman checked in front of me. After I checked in I sat down in the lobby wondering who my ultrasound tech would be. A few minutes later, the door opened and a 50 year old looking Caucasian woman came out. She called the name of the pregnant woman that checked in before me. Three or four minutes later the door opened again, it looked like another pregnant woman patient leaving. I think pregnant women are most of this clinics ultrasound patients. About 5 minutes later the door opened again, out came a 25 year old looking Caucasian woman. She was very beautiful and wearing the same uniform as the 50 year old. She called my name.

She greeted me and took me back to a ultrasound room. She said she will be doing the ultrasound of both my right and left testicles. She handed me a thin sheet and pillow. She told me to get naked from the waist down, leave my socks on and then lay down on the table. She left the room and I took off my pants and underwear and got on top to the table and covered my privates with the sheet. I said to myself this is going to be hard to hold the boy down.

She knocked on the door and asked if I was ready, I said yes and she came in. She started by asking me questions. Have you every had an ultrasound, I said no. What is the reason for the ultrasound, any masses or lumps? I said no, it was for testicular pain. She asked if I had any recent trauma to the testicles. I lied and said no. She told me to put my feet in the stirrups and then she sat in her chair next to me and the ultrasound machine.

She removed the sheet exposing my privates. The room was very warm and my balls were loose. She flipped my totally limp penis upwards so it was pointing towards my navel. She then covered my penis with a towel. She then put her hand under my scrotum and lifted up my balls and placed a tightly wound up towel underneath them. She was very pleasant to talk to and seemed to have sweet flirty personality. She explained everything she was doing during the procedure. Before staring the ultrasound, she squirted warmed up ultrasound gel on my scrotum and rubbed it in. She said she wanted to first take images of both my boys together. After that she moved to the right testicle moving the the transducer probe back and forth over my testicle. After she was done wit the right testicle she moved to the left.



She took many images to my testicles from different positions, images of my epididymides and spermatic cords. She took live Doppler video of blood flow to my testicles. She also took measurements of my testicles which was part to the exam. My balls were close in size with my right being slightly larger. My right testicle was 5.4 x 3.9 x 2.4 centimeters. I think that is the length, width and height. I asked her it that is normal size. She said my testicles were large in size. She said she measured some guy's testicles the were not swollen at over 6 CM in length.

The procedure lasted about 20 minutes. I was having the urge to get and erection but managed to keep the boy down. She was moving my balls around and about half way through the procedure she pressed down hard on my right testicle with the transducer prob which seemed to flatten it. She asked me if that hurts. I said no, that was all the stimulus I could take and up she went. I saw the towel covering my penis rising up. When she was finished, I was popping a tent with a hard erection. She looked at me with a smirk on her face and said there are towels by the sink to clean the gel off before I get dressed. She said the radiologist will contact my doctor with the results.

When I walked out the the room, she was sitting at a desk in a room next to the room I had the exam. There was a large screen monitor on the desk and she had a cross section image of one of my testicles on the screen. The radiologist did not find any abnormalities with my testicle, except my right epididymide had some minor blood pooling which might be causing the pain. My doctor thought I might be developing epididymitis and prescribed the antibiotic Cipro. The Cipro did not seemed to help any.


You’re lucky that an attractive woman examined you, but you’ve wasted everybody’s time and money.

Clearly, trauma caused your pain, but you’ve been treated for a nonexistent infection.

If you had to lie to your doctor, why not invent an accidental sporting kick?

IMHO, you have not had good medical treatment, due to misleading your doctor, and need to get this sorted.

[darkwing]

The decision to have a vasectomy must be mutually agreed upon by both you and your wife. It should be considered permanent. Read up on the possible complications also, as it is not entirely without potential risks. Any time you're going to cut through the skin (or puncture it) there is also the risk of infection. It seems that your wife is essentially infertile. For you to have a vasectomy would seem to be mainly for preventing YOU from having children on the side with other women. Are you really someone who would do such a thing as to cheat on your wife? You were stopped by thoughts of pain from your wife when you were contemplating that woman at work. Didn't you promise that you and your wife would be exclusive to each other when you said your wedding vows (..."til death do us part...")?

You probably also should have been more truthful with your doctor. You might have had the ultrasound done anyways to make sure nothing was ruptured or otherwise damaged, but without all the information to make a sound medical decision he had to guess about the possibility of an epididymitis-type of infection. The unnecessary course of antibiotics is the type of thing that contributes to infections becoming more resistant to antibiotics. Don't worry about the nurse. She probably does that often enough. It is not likely to be anything erotic to her. All that manipulation of your testicles is likely to stimulate you to have an erection regardless of whether you wanted one.

Overall, if you were not ready to commit to being sterile and having parts of your body permanently damaged (vas deferens tube permanently cut and unable to function), then you made the right decision. If you want to play around, keep it with your wife.

[rona778899]

I want to clarify some questions raised by respondents to my post. I chose not to have a vasectomy because of the low possibility my wife getting pregnant. It changes a man's plumbing. When the vas deferens are cut and tied, the sperm has no path to go. Your epididymides will swell up until a blowout develop creating a path for the sperm to leach out. Some men suffer from chronic testicular pain after having the V.

I mentioned the right testicular pain during my routine checkup six months after being kicked full force. I am glad I had the ultrasound, it showed no damage that would required surgical repair. As far as getting an erection during the scrotal ultrasound. I made it half way through the procedure before popping a hard erection. When you have a beautiful very young woman handling and rubbing your balls, I think I did a good job holding it down as long as I did. I think she was amused to, with her cute smirk on her face when she told me to wipe myself off and get dressed.

I have been faithful to my wife. The woman at work made the advance. My wife is dominate and I am submissive. My wife willing to use her size 12 foot to enforce her dominance. I have no doubt she will kick me in the balls hard if she catches me fooling around. She will probably give me a shoe full from behind. I respect her power more after being kicked in the balls full force.

[Kyore000]

Your body, your decision. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something so permanent with your body that you yourself admitted that you don't want, and also might (probably will) regret later.