Ballbusting has lost its luster?

[Balloney]

I participated on this forum a little maybe a decade ago. I try to avoid porn, and just wanted to read a bit about ball busting. I liked to have my wife play rough with my balls. We've been married about 20 years now.

Now, I'm in my late 40's. My penis isn't as sensitive as it used to be. I used to be sensitive for post-orgasm torture. My wife wasn't that into it. She'd humor me as I strapped myself up during hand jobs. But by the time I started doing that, the sensitivity of my head wasn't that intense. These days, my penis isn't that sensitive just for regular sex, not like it used to be. I still love sex and want to have it every night. She's not down for every night.

But ball spanking and squeezing-- I used to go that probably once a week or so, sometimes every handjob. Early in our marriage, one night was intercourse, the next night hand jobs, with a week to ten days of hand jobs for her period. Nowadays, it's two or three, maybe four at best, sexual activities a week with her. Her knees are sore, so no doggy style for quite a while. Just me on my haunches, a variant of man on top so I don't squish her, kind of perpendicular, or WOT, since I can bear her body weight. We occasionally do this lazy T-shaped position where we are both laying down.

I might go for ball busting once a month during a hand job.

The other day, she gave me a much-needed handjob during her period, and started a conversation with someone on her phone. I thought that was a bit rude. I couldn't ask her to do stuff because she was on the phone, so I was using sign language-- spank the balls, or whatever. She'd take me to the edge, and I'd stop her hand and have her play with the balls just so I wouldn't grunt while the other person was on the phone.

That was a pretty intense hand job, and the ball busting got to feeling really, really good.

But usually, its not that intense. Sometimes ball busting just kind of has the pain without the erotic feeling behind it. Maybe it's the lack of young-man-horniness behind it. I wonder if edging without release a bit would help. I'd experienced a bit of stimulation without release before that last hand job, actually, which might have helped it with the intensity.

Has anyone found as they age, they don't have the horniness... or whatever... to make ball busting as fun as it used to? Has anyone gotten to the point where post orgasm torturing doesn't work because you aren't that sensitive anymore. Rarely does it do much for me.

I'm thinking of getting testosterone shots. The doc has me 30 point or so below optimal which he says is 250. I don't get it. I get erections. They require a little more foreplay and I'm not at full mast every time the wife comes out of the shower like I was in my 20's. It's possible for her to touch it without it being a full-blown erection is 2 seconds like when I was young. But it's still working, and I still want lots of sex. So I was a surprised I was actually below optimat for testosterone.

Have any of you gone for testosterone supplementation? Did it make you hornier and want more ball busting? How about your penis head? Did it make it sensitive like when you were young? The idea of getting that sensitivity back would be fun. I wish my wife would find the idea of tying me down, busting my horny balls, blowing, stroking and edging me mercilessly, then stroking me post-orgasm to another orgasm or two... to be erotic. I'd like to have some of those more intense youthful sensations back.

[mick_sl8ter]

I participated on this forum a little maybe a decade ago. I try to avoid porn, and just wanted to read a bit about ball busting. I liked to have my wife play rough with my balls. We've been married about 20 years now.

Now, I'm in my late 40's. My penis isn't as sensitive as it used to be. I used to be sensitive for post-orgasm torture. My wife wasn't that into it. She'd humor me as I strapped myself up during hand jobs. But by the time I started doing that, the sensitivity of my head wasn't that intense. These days, my penis isn't that sensitive just for regular sex, not like it used to be. I still love sex and want to have it every night. She's not down for every night.

But ball spanking and squeezing-- I used to go that probably once a week or so, sometimes every handjob. Early in our marriage, one night was intercourse, the next night hand jobs, with a week to ten days of hand jobs for her period. Nowadays, it's two or three, maybe four at best, sexual activities a week with her. Her knees are sore, so no doggy style for quite a while. Just me on my haunches, a variant of man on top so I don't squish her, kind of perpendicular, or WOT, since I can bear her body weight. We occasionally do this lazy T-shaped position where we are both laying down.

I might go for ball busting once a month during a hand job.

The other day, she gave me a much-needed handjob during her period, and started a conversation with someone on her phone. I thought that was a bit rude. I couldn't ask her to do stuff because she was on the phone, so I was using sign language-- spank the balls, or whatever. She'd take me to the edge, and I'd stop her hand and have her play with the balls just so I wouldn't grunt while the other person was on the phone.

That was a pretty intense hand job, and the ball busting got to feeling really, really good.

But usually, its not that intense. Sometimes ball busting just kind of has the pain without the erotic feeling behind it. Maybe it's the lack of young-man-horniness behind it. I wonder if edging without release a bit would help. I'd experienced a bit of stimulation without release before that last hand job, actually, which might have helped it with the intensity.

Has anyone found as they age, they don't have the horniness... or whatever... to make ball busting as fun as it used to? Has anyone gotten to the point where post orgasm torturing doesn't work because you aren't that sensitive anymore. Rarely does it do much for me.

I'm thinking of getting testosterone shots. The doc has me 30 point or so below optimal which he says is 250. I don't get it. I get erections. They require a little more foreplay and I'm not at full mast every time the wife comes out of the shower like I was in my 20's. It's possible for her to touch it without it being a full-blown erection is 2 seconds like when I was young. But it's still working, and I still want lots of sex. So I was a surprised I was actually below optimat for testosterone.

Have any of you gone for testosterone supplementation? Did it make you hornier and want more ball busting? How about your penis head? Did it make it sensitive like when you were young? The idea of getting that sensitivity back would be fun. I wish my wife would find the idea of tying me down, busting my horny balls, blowing, stroking and edging me mercilessly, then stroking me post-orgasm to another orgasm or two... to be erotic. I'd like to have some of those more intense youthful sensations back.


Maybe you need to do some workout. Get into shape. And get some action with younger women. Maybe that will trigger your wife into paying more attention to your needs.

[loganfive]

Have any of you gone for testosterone supplementation? Did it make you hornier and want more ball busting? How about your penis head? Did it make it sensitive like when you were young? The idea of getting that sensitivity back would be fun. I wish my wife would find the idea of tying me down, busting my horny balls, blowing, stroking and edging me mercilessly, then stroking me post-orgasm to another orgasm or two... to be erotic. I'd like to have some of those more intense youthful sensations back.

I am in my 50s. I had a similar testosterone score: low minimum level. I went on prescription testosterone gel, various application amounts, for over a year. I felt no difference what so ever. Don't believe the TV advertisements that lead to think you will suddenly become this energetic, youthful sex-machine ("She will like it too"). It doesn't work that way at all. YMMV, but there is no magic pill to getting back the dick of a 20 year old. Getting old sucks.

[lolforg]

Diet plays a big role in testosterone production and circulation, along with sleep and exercise. Go pure plant-based for best result.

[Selftailer]

Dear fellows,
I believe there is a little bit of confusion about title and content of this blog.
What the hell is involving ballbusting lust with low testosterone level?
I'm 66, and probably with a huge lack of testosterone (I do not care about checking the
level) and consequently with great erection problem, but... I do love ballbusting and I
am addicted by this intriguing form of fetish as I was when I was a teenager.

So, find a good tablet for Your erection problems and do not think about lack of lust
by ballbusting practice.

[sebi40]

I am 57 and I was also about 10 years ago in this testosterone checking, because I wanted to change myself in a sex machine. It is not working like this especially when you have a sexual fetish. Now I do not care anymore about testosterone level. I still have erection and normal sex (PIV) but I do not care es much about being all the time hard as a rock or having sex for long time. The advantage of a kinky person is to find multiple way to give an orgasm to a woman. Ball-busting lust is more related with the brain than with testosterone.
Do not worry too much about sex because you can get performance anxiety and this is a dangerous loop you do not want to be in.

[jamfunks]

yeah, I guess we have to accept how we change with age.. and lack of lust may be a good thing in some situations like dating, because it makes us less needy of women .. a 62 y/o friend of mine is more comfortable with his decreased sexual appetite than with how it used to be before..

I'm 34, sometime when I can't keep it hard I use a cock ring, or a hair band.. the beauty of this is that you can put several of these and you'll have a hard time going flaccid until you remove the bands.. I hope this will still work for me in the future and for you today (let me know!)

[Selftailer]

... Ball-busting lust is more related with the brain than with testosterone...

Exactly! I agree 100 %with You.

[mick_sl8ter]

Do not worry too much about sex because you can get performance anxiety and this is a dangerous loop you do not want to be in.


Correct! I am a younger guy, but I have been in a situation where I would eat junk food, get fat and lazy.
I was in a dark place, I would be angry and hateful, that also led to bitching to my regular women I have sex with.
Even to a point I decided I don't need anyone's shit, while actually it was me causing trouble with everyone around me.

So in need of sex I dated some women on Tinder. And then 2 ladies in a row: my dick would not get hard. Or at least stay hard.
Then I came up with an explanation for myself : it must be that first woman, because she was not my type, I told myself that is why my dick wont stay hard for her.
But then it happened again with a super hot sexy woman. And I felt defeated and became even more depressed and angry at the world.

I looked at myself in the mirror and my fat hairy belly. And I decided I don't want to look like this and be like this. So I called a friend with who I used to go running together.
He was in really good shape and he talked me out of this depression. We started training together. I started following his diet.
As I started eating healthy again, the extra fat started to melt away. The fucking manboobs started to disappear. I felt like a man again. And my erections became rock hard again.

So I wanted to put it to the test and have sex with my regular women I have been neglecting.
Actually since I started to get back on track, I started to pay them some possitive attention: because women need time to like you again.
Luckily they liked my behaviour change and I was able to restore those sexual relationships. (except 1)
And the sex has been great, like always: rock solid dick and no worries about not being able to perform.
But now I appreciate them even more, than before. It is good to have your baseline of women in life. To which you can always turn for good sex.

Still I have been having sex with some young hot student girls and that also was great. BUT it is different. It is just sex.
You enjoy their hot sexy bodies. And it is a one time thing. Mostly just regular PIV penetration. Occasionly a bit of light ballbusting action, when you feel she is really horny and up for it.
My regular women know what I like: I trained them perfectly in ballsucking and ballbiting. And I think over the years they have developed a liking for it. One of my regulars likes to tie my balls up and box them.

Why some women like some form of ballbusting better than others? Everyone has their own liking. Just accept the differences and enjoy the ride.
I once had a girl that would like to hang from my balls. She was not so heavy. That was also cool :-)

Anyway: take care of yourself. Body first, but mind is even more important! Do NOT force sex! Let the natural energy flow, grow the libido inside yourself. Eat Healthy, exercise. Enjoy life, don' t be angry and hateful.

[fireplay86]

I'm another single dude in his mid-30s, so I'm not exactly in the same stage of life you're at, but just thought I'd chime in about reinvigorating the kink when it starts to flag. Totally agree with everyone about keeping fit and what it does for self-image, let alone your actual hormone balance--and since BB is regularly part of your vanilla sex, that's got to be the first thing to work on.

But even at my most fit, there are days I'm not interested in being kicked in the nuts (ridiculous, I know :))--if I ever want a surefire way to jumpstart my kink, I start to write some BB erotica. I'm not sure why, but reading/writing about BB is more likely to pull me out of a 'slump' than consuming typical porn (which isn't to say I'm not 1000% all about it on normal days.) Anyway, maybe you'll find you're a weirdo like me and it will work for you. GL!

[stman]

Exactly! I agree 100 %with You.

I'm the same, but I don't think ballbusting works the same way for everyone. Early 40s here.. I was on antidepressants for a few years for unrelated things and they totally annihilated my sex drive. However, I still enjoyed ballbusting whenever I had the chance to play with a friend. (So much for that horseshit about antidepressants "curing" fetishes :D )

I can say one thing though--just because I like ballbusting doesn't mean I continually enjoy it with one person. I can lose the desire to play with someone and be kind of scared to admit it. Sometimes it's a partner living too far away for too long, other times I've dated partners who are mostly vanilla or geared toward me being a top when I'm not into topping and I am just not into vanilla. It sucks, but I can lose "ballbusting attraction feels" like any other kind of attraction, and then I'll have a much harder time playing with that person, because I'm no longer into it. I am saying this, because I have at these times felt that ballbusting had lost its lustre, when I was just kinda sad, too sexually frustrated (beyond normal lol), etc.

*Also, OP still has sexual activity 3-4 times a week, that strikes me as above average for a long term together couple ;)

[Balloney]

Dear fellows,
I believe there is a little bit of confusion about title and content of this blog.
What the hell is involving ballbusting lust with low testosterone level?
I'm 66, and probably with a huge lack of testosterone (I do not care about checking the
level) and consequently with great erection problem, but... I do love ballbusting and I
am addicted by this intriguing form of fetish as I was when I was a teenager.

So, find a good tablet for Your erection problems and do not think about lack of lust
by ballbusting practice.

Luster not lust.

[Balloney]

Maybe you need to do some workout. Get into shape. And get some action with younger women. Maybe that will trigger your wife into paying more attention to your needs.


I could work out more. I lost gym access when COVID-19 hit. But the part about getting action with younger women is just terrible life advice. There is more to life than getting excited about getting hit in the testicles.

[Balloney]

Since I posted the opening post in this thread, my wife has given me two or three really intense ball busting hand jobs. I have noticed, especially recently, that my penis is less sensitive than it used to be. I lost that post-orgasm sensitivity in my 30's after encouraging my wife to engage in this. It pretty quickly got to the point where I could take it without needing to be tied up. I thought of it as my brain requiring itself. But now I notice I don't have those intense penis head sensations.


And I am not as horny as I used to be, so I don't crave the ball busting and getting hit down there doesn't instantly feel as good.


But with these recent hand jobs, I realized that ball squeezing and stroking is still a way I can reach a very high state of pleasure that I enjoy. I usually get hand jobs on occasions when she is having her period or wants to take care of my needs but doesn't feel up to intercourse. Her hands get tired and sore easier now that she is in her 40's than in previous decades, though.


I've put a penis ring around my balls or just had her make a ring with her forefinger and thumb and isolate them to play with them. I'm not complete sure what she does. Maybe she does that hard squeezing while rubbing I used to find an objectionable form of ball play. I've got to be 'warmed up' to enjoy them. She doesn't do kicks or punches. That's too much for me. Spanking with the palm, not the fingers, is good, starting not to hard and working up to a reasonably firm slap, a couple every second, dozens of slaps, alternated with squeezing, then back to slapping, and playing with my penis again, then back to the balls. Lots of fun.


One time recently, she was on the phone with someone and I got a handjob. I was frustrated that she was just using one hand. She usually uses two. I like two on my penis to get that firm pressure and stroking base along with the shaft and head stroking, which feels a lot like her vagina right after I took her virginity. Or else I liked one on the penis and the other playing with the balls.


This time, though, she'd get me close with her hands and I'd have her switch to the balls. Ball play doesn't make me go over the edge. I got into a really intense zone of sexual pleasure with her squeezing and playing with my balls with one hand, when the balls were isolated with a penis ring.


We had another similar session a week or two later. So I am still glad for ball play. I'm not horny like I used to be. If I skip a night of sex, I don't feel like I am going to explode, and a pat on the balls doesn't always instantly feel pleasureful. I need to be worked up into it more. But a little rough ball play is still fun, and I don't know how easy it would be to get into the higher states of pleasure without it.


I'm hoping to experience some nut squeezing and spanking in the next eight hours or so.

[Balloney]

I had low T, so the doctor has been giving me shots. My sex drive has gone up. I moved, drove a U-Haul all night, and kept fantasizing about getting ball busted. My wife was exhausted, and she finally busted me today. It was probably the most intense ball-busting session of my life.

I'd tried to get her to play a game, which I may post the idea for.

She usually gives me ball slaps, not to hard, about two a second, once we work up to that. I didn't get a handjob, this time, just straight for the balls. She made a ring with her index finger and thumb and isolated the balls with the other hand and started slapping with her palm. I asked her to mix it up with random hard slaps and try to get me to close my legs. I asked her to squeeze my balls hard if I did to 'squeeze in the slap.' The squeezing turned into all fast hard thud slaps with her palm against well-extended testicles. The feeling was intense, as intense as a constant orgasm, but with me worrying that she might be destroying my nuts a little, which was distracting. There was almost no pain, only that deep thud pleasure. Is that pain or not? I was making weird noises and having a good time. I kissed her and thanked her for it. Eventually, she tired out and we finished up with intercourse. I may get her to pound me through an orgasm like that some time. Maybe she can keep going after and I can try that out a bit if I am in such a state of arousal.

I had read that getting T-shots might reactivate certain cells that make a penis sensitive again. I wish I could have 18-year-old sensitivity so she could torture me like that. I'd have to talk her into me being tied up for that. I miss her being able to do post-orgasm torture for me. About the time we started, the hypersensitivity went away. Maybe I just got used to it.