Reluctent girl friend

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IVe been trying to get my girlfirend into busting, but she doesnt want because she thinks she will damige my equipment what are the real risks of this and how to amek her comfertable with this

[Julie18nz]

IVe been trying to get my girlfirend into busting, but she doesnt want because she thinks she will damige my equipment what are the real risks of this and how to amek her comfertable with this

No matter what others say, there ARE real risks if its not done right, and I dont really think its right to force someone to do anything, sexual or otherwise, that they are not comfortable with :)

[Crymsonsplash]

Julie, true, it's not nice to force someone you love to do something if it's truly against their will, but... In a good, working relationship, partners should at least TRY something twice. Why twice? First time trying something, you'll be nervous, but the second time, you'll be more confident, and have less bias on something. As for this case, he may want to ask his significant other to try it lightly at first. Maybe some light squeezes, putting a bit of pressure under her foot, etc... Build from there! :)

[krak]

No matter what others say, there ARE real risks if its not done right, and I dont really think its right to force someone to do anything, sexual or otherwise, that they are not comfortable with :)
ARE there real risks even if its done right?

[Julie18nz]

ARE there real risks even if its done right?

The risks are are a lot less if its done right, but ur talking about a girl that has not done this before and doesnt seem too intersted in doing it. So I would suggest either light squeezes of light punches as even a soft kick is a lot harder and faster than most girls think it is :)

[benderboy]

You shouldn't force someone into doing something they don't want to do, but you can always try to persuade them that it's something they might like to try once. The first time I brought up the idea to my wife she seemed totally grossed out. Then I showed her a couple of vids (one funny one) and she agreed to give it one shot. I thought she was going to be real shy and squeamish on her first attempt, but she kicked me so hard I was doubled up on the floor for at least five minutes. I think maybe a little such persuasion is the way to get that first kick, and after that, the rest just seem to follow ..

[krak]

OK. Will try to rephrase MY question (from neophyte).
Is there any health risk if it's done "right" and "safe"?

In my childhood heard a lot that kick in the balls could lead to impotence.

[teapot42]

All sorts of things *can* go wrong. However, it isn't all that likely that they will. A kick in the balls would only lead to impotence if they were damaged and it takes quite a lot of force or a very unlucky hit for that to happen. However, a mis-kick could damage things that could cause you trouble. You could take 10 kicks with steel toe capped boots and have no damage, but a fairly light knee that traps a nut badly could leave you with a rupture.

Ballbusting is not 100% safe but then very little is. You've got to accept some risk but as long as you are fairly sensible and don't go for very hard blows or blows that risk crushing your orbs against an immovable object then the likelyhood is that you will be fine.

Squeezing and punching is pretty much safe unless you get really stupid. I would say that barefoot kicks as long as she doesn't lash out are fine. Pressing under a foot is OK as long as she doesn't slip and put all her weight on you nuts. Kneeing usually is OK but that and kicking with shoes has the risk of trapping a nut. The 'outside' of your nuts is a pretty tough membrane but it can only take so much distortion before it splits. Gradual compression is far safer than rapid compression as this membrane has more change to distort rather than split.

It might be worth trying to find a site that explains how the nuts are constructed and let her see that they can absorb squashing without damage.

[exstudent]

Ive been into balls busting since I was a teen. I've never had rock hard erections and accasionally have troubles. Has anyone noticed any difference since they been into ball busting or have trouble getting erect??

[Trouble]

With getting partners to do stuff: do not try to be too pushy with a partner; ain't right. I figured asking girls to kick me in the nuts was fine and dandy, since so many girls take to doing it. One chick I persuaded to kick me in the balls told me after kicking me that she was also a masochist and asked me to slap her around.

Suddenly, I noticed that I had been doing a Bad Thing. I should not have leaned on so many chicks to hurt me; having a chick ask me to hurt her puts it all in perspective: I have ABSOLUTELY NO DESIRE to hurt chicks by slapping them around, giving them spankings, etc. (And I ain't no angel: there are one or two ways to hurt women that turn me on, so I do it -- accidentally, of course -- I just ain't into hitting people.)

Think of it the way I do: "Yo bitch ain't yo bitch." Careful not to push too hard, because it can cause your partner to feel a) icky, b) inadequate, c) irritated, or d) something else that could effect your relationship.


Ive been into balls busting since I was a teen. I've never had rock hard erections and accasionally have troubles. Has anyone noticed any difference since they been into ball busting or have trouble getting erect??
Over many years: nope, nothing, no adverse effects, not at all, and then a few years ago: yeah, suddenly, everything is messed up. You might want to see a physician, but I doubt that repairs can be done if anything is out of order; on the other hand, you might have something OTHER than ballbusting effecting your ability to get/maintain a boner.

[exstudent]

do you still have problems? for me its now and then.

[Takkyuu_tama]

do you still have problems? for me its now and then.

I've been stretching (ropes, weights, leather collars, and now metal) for ten years, taken punches, light kicks, crushed in a Lexan and a metal ballcrusher, and been ordered to hit my balls (with mostly the blue bonger, sometimes fists, ping pong paddles or other items) 98,549 times in the last three years, and I still get just as hard as ever. (Almost to 100,000 hits!)

Despite all this, I don't think I've ever taken what I would call a dangerous hit, and though a fertility test for me would probably be a good idea at this point, I doubt your erection troubles are due to ballbusting, unless you're doing something really wrong.

Don't smoke, get some exercise, try not cumming for two weeks (maybe you're just 'tired'), and if all else fails my friends say wonderful things about viagra.

[gw521]

Rope 'em up cowgirl!

[ansible]

Lots of things affect the quality and lasting power of an erection: age, stress, overall health, diet, etc etc etc. External trauma to the region can certainly have an impact, and can cause nerve damage over time. Your body is a pretty good indicator of when things have gone too far. There's a pretty huge line between uncomfortable and permanently damaging. You said this is a concern you've had for years, in which case it's not likely to be trauma based.

Someone else mentioned Viagra, which isn't a bad idea - because it probably means you'd be talking to a doctor, but throwing drugs at a problem is not necessarily an the best tactic in general.

Here's a link that describes some of the anatomy responsible

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise


Do a little web research on "Male Kegal Exercises" or similar and you can find some neat, free stuff that may help you if the problem is just weak erectile muscles.

If the problem is with blood flow, or specifically, that blood does not stay in the penis when erect, Viagra would work, but so would any number of other things from cock-rings to gripping the base of the penis when stimulated.

Not smoking, avoiding blood thinners (alcohol, aspirin), diuretics (caffeine, alcohol), and increasing your water intake and aerobic exercise would help improve your overall circulation and blood pressure.

Hope that helps,
Ansible

[rec912]

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[servin]

how many girls are comfortable with this sort of thing? how would you bring it up to them anyway? how do you even mention something like this?

[bbbb]

how many girls are comfortable with this sort of thing? how would you bring it up to them anyway? how do you even mention something like this?
In my experience, not many are 'in to it', but most are willing to give it a try or two..or ten.. As for 'comfortable', how long is a piece of string?
I doubt most are 'comfortable' and those who love you are most unlikely to do it without knowing they have your blessings. Just like 'cuntbusting', the vast majority of men will not do it unless she tells him and actually asks him to participate in it.
I found that breaking the subject into small, smaller then larger pieces works well. Begin by viewing a movie or game which includes a ballbusting scene. Laugh about it, and perhaps comment that "...even *I* could still stand after a *flimsy* shot like that to the happysack..."
You introduced, without stating, an 'interest' in the activity. Do this a few times and you're effectively telling her it is something you're interested in and even willing to lay a wager on.
A few days/weeks/months later, assuming she hasn't already tried to disprove your theory (by whacking you in the balls and stating "Ha, you didn't take it as well as the guy on TV") slowly up the stakes a little. For example, if you both go out one night and have a few drinks, use the drinks to your advantage (i.e. if you feel ashamed after saying/doing anything - blame the drink) by telling her how much of a 'ballbuster' she looks dressed like, betting she could kick any man's balls from here to the moon, how you're oooh-sooo glad she doesn't feel mean by scrambling your babymakers with those boots on..etc.etc.
If she seems content with all this, slowly bring in the fascination you have been hiding from her. Remember though, play safe - an inexperienced girl *CAN* do physical, lasting harm.
As time progresses, just keep upping the wagers until you're both at comfortable degrees of ballbusting - do not push her further than she's willing to go, and let her know if she goes too far beyond your own boundaries.
This is one of those games that requires mutual trust. Never let her loose on them when she's angry with you... I learned that a little too late.
My wife isn't exactly "in to" ballbusting, but she does play along for my benefit. On the other side, she enjoys certain things of a sexual nature too - so we do it mutually. I give, she gives. We both win. One of the nights she took me completely by surprise. She tied me down and left me in the room alone momentarily. Upon return she was dressed to kill - and kill she did. Mentally, I'm still walking like John Wayne whenever I think of that night...

[fittizzioh]

My former gf always (about one time everyday) squeezed or punched my balls and i have no problems! I don't think testicles damage can be related to erection problems!

To introduce your partner in ballbusting just punch her between her legs and then tell her one of you two had to do it, then let her choose who will be the next puncher! :Baahaha:

Ok i was just joking... play fight with her and soon you will be busted! Girls always aim there!!!!

[uspsfanalan]

One thing that I've done that has worked very well for me, is to take the BB slowly. In a relationship, after a while she's going to ask you if there is anything that you really like, that's the perfect time to bring up your preferences. I've used this with a couple of women, I used this last week, I said ... "There is one thing but I'm sort of embarassed to tell you, it's a little weird." She'll jump to the conclusion that you're going to say something really crazy, like you want to tie her down or your into water sports. I garantee that what she's going to jump to isn't half as scary to her as a little squeezing. Then just say "I like when women play ruff with my balls and give them a little squeeze, isn't that weird." Again, she's relieved that you don't want to smack her around or get burnt with candles.

Then when she's giving you a squeeze just tell her to go harder and keep kissing her. Make eye contact a lot. Smile. Kiss her cheeck. Tell her it feels good. If you do those things you're making BB seem a lot more normal. After she gets comfortable giving them a good squeeze, then it might be time to let her know the true extent of your fetish. This way is less likely to be pushy and seems less likely to hurt the relationship. I'll be interested to know what everyone else thinks.

[servin]

The other day I was giving my girl a foot massage. I wasn't feeling too well either. While I was massaging her feet I told her to kick me in the face, and she did not too hard.
I was very turned on by her dominant side.. I asked her if she wanted to kick my penis, and she seemed to be pretty into it. She even wanted to punch it. I haven't let her kick me in the balls but its scary and sexy at the same time.
She seems to be pretty into it as of right now she says its "fun".
Just thought I'd share my story.

[testiclats]

Hey just a thought... If there was NO risk to letting a girl kick you in the nuts... Would it still make you horny?

Not me :Baahaha: The danger is part of the thrill... In fact it turns me on more if the girl says "I'm gonna crush your nuts until you're sterile!" or something like that...lol...