Why sometimes women ballbusting doesn't turn me on.

[eric B]

When I watch ballbusting clips from films I sometimes see clips that annoy me more than they arouse me and it's pretty difficult to pin down why some clips annoy me and why others don't. I've come to the conclusion that the only time a woman isn't sexy while she's ballbusting is when she seems to think the guy "deserves" it, like kicking a guy in the balls is a good way of letting a guy know he's done something wrong. Of course there is a lot of sexy scenes where the woman does it for revenge, or for protection, and other scenes where a girls telling a guy he deserves it just to humiliate the hell out of him, but when there's some girl who actually seems to believe that kicking some guy in the balls is actually a SOLUTION to some problem which is more complex I find that a real turn off. I guess ignorant people just aren't sexy whatever they do.

[Nekro]

yeah i know what you mean. the girl gotta be sexy and has to enjoy it. not the pure "i'll destroy" thing. she gotta play und dominate. especially with herhands :thumbup

[sunk]

I tend to like the ones where it is more of a normal girl just enjoying herself. I kind of have a CFNM (clothed female naked male) fetish as well though so that comes into play.

To be truthful I kind of see the woman like you describe as being somewhat attractive. I guess different strokes for different folks as they say. What I do not like is normal fetish dress or obvious cases where it is an actor who does not enjoy what they do.

[kickme000]

I like CFNM too.

[the_tree]

I can see where you're coming from, but I kinda like the idea of a girl's first reaction to having a problem with a man is to nail him in the nuts. Obviously not in a general sense, but as a fantasy it'd be nice to RP that kind of attitude, sort of a general femdom attitude. It's all about escapism really, if a girl just came up and blasted me one in the street I probably wouldn't be too happy about it...

...maybe.

[haxhaxhax]

Yeah, it's 100x sexier when the girl does it just for pleasure.

[eric B]

hmm, I think I've confused myself by trying to explain myself.

[donatien]

hmm, I think I've confused myself by trying to explain myself.

I read your thread, but I dont understand your research and what are your expectations to look ballbustings clip?
Can you to explain more

[johnny_cockNballs]

hmm, I think I've confused myself by trying to explain myself.

Sorry, I didn't want to be rude but I never really understand your post meaning. But English isn't my native language anyway, so I thought I missed something in your meaning.

For me, the revenge factor is the best. A woman wants to put a man under her heel, and give him some payback for harassment behaviour to women. Think about it, a person wants to get revenge on another can do it easy: wait for the guy with a gun or knife and attack, hire another to get them. Or, imagine a wife wants to put the husband under her thumb for life. She will use the ballbust, or threat to hurt his balls to get his behaviour the way she wants -- this is my situation. I never know when my balls will be attacked, and it keeps me excited and edgy.

The woman that wants to really punish a guy will attack his manhood (cock n balls) -- between his legs. There is alot of symbolism in this attack too. The woman showing her power, and exposing the male's weakness. The attack against his gender, nature, maleness. A woman will always win in this kind of attack. The pyschological defeat of the male will occur with his balls being destroyed. The ballbust that happens on the woman's terms is the best exciting.

The ballbust that is paid for, or the guy knows it is going to happen, is not exciting to me. I don't find those femdom clips in a dungeon exciting. Everyone knows it is staged, and the man is really in control anyway. He can stop it before he is damaged, and he is paying for it too or performing.

The sudden unexpected ballbust is the best. :thumbup

[sunk]

It's all about escapism really, if a girl just came up and blasted me one in the street I probably wouldn't be too happy about it...

...maybe.

At first I think I'd be in shock or laugh. Then I'd probably get pretty damn turned on by it.

[zakbflat]

yeah i know what you mean. the girl gotta be sexy and has to enjoy it. not the pure "i'll destroy" thing. she gotta play und dominate. especially with herhands :thumbup


I like any ballbusting scenario from a woman, as long as its her foot, knee, elbow, fist. My biggest problem with a lot of movies is that the girl is in a dark room (like a warehouse), and is dressed like a man. Cynthia Rothrock is guilty of this in some of her movies and she can be very sexy!

[eric B]

I don't quite know why I originally started this thread but for some reason it's an issue for me again. I don't really think I've nailed the reasons in my previous posts, but the reason I first made the thread is because I saw this video on youtube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2VqPbrSpCzs) and thought it was annoying, even though it has all my favourite elements (so it should be a classic-like Total Recall) . I think the mental world the characters inhabit offends me somehow. It's a similar case with this onehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aqgGfC8A5-c

[anatinus]

Funny, that first one did it for me in a big way. Watched it twice, especially loved the conversation bit at the end, where the female character has zero sympathy. Hot. I see your point, but it's exactly that frustration at being kicked in the balls for very little justification that got me into it in the first place- and hell, the mental world almost every TV character inhabits annoys me.

But different strokes...

[frostbyte252252]

I dun like CFNM. I like NFNM. Gotta see all of her. You got to remember I am still straight and enjoy normal sex. :D

[me_no_wimp]

It was acting and I doubt there was a real bust there.

The bit where she treads on his neck is real though.

And nice sneakers, although I'd have liked a better view of them.

[agent_mouse]

Funny, that first one did it for me in a big way. Watched it twice, especially loved the conversation bit at the end, where the female character has zero sympathy. Hot. I see your point, but it's exactly that frustration at being kicked in the balls for very little justification that got me into it in the first place- and hell, the mental world almost every TV character inhabits annoys me.

But different strokes...

aaawww, i couldn't agree more with you! :thumbup

[agent_mouse]

I dun like CFNM. I like NFNM. Gotta see all of her. You got to remember I am still straight and enjoy normal sex. :D

and that's exactly the reason why i can't stand porn in general....because i'm absolutely straight and definitely DON'T want to see a nude guy. it's a HUGE turn off for me....

[dark]

Let me explain the cfnm thing, because I like it:
When you see a blowjob, do you look at the dick or at the woman's expression and hand and imagine that in the best case is your dick?


Look at femaledom is 99% cfnm. The guys are ugly and the girls are superhot!
Who gives a f... about the men, I guess most of us we only look at the women's expression. The naked guys are exposed, so it is more turning on. For me it's gay when I see self-busting or no woman's face.

I like this topic we have the chance to say what we like in bb abd what not. My turn: I don't like dungeon stuff like others said. I don't like speechless repeatedly bb too. My worst is when after or before the bb, I see dildos coming out and the guy getting fucked... pisses me off!!!

[blkpatent]

Let me explain the cfnm thing, because I like it:
When you see a blowjob, do you look at the dick or at the woman's expression and hand and imagine that in the best case is your dick?


Look at femaledom is 99% cfnm. The guys are ugly and the girls are superhot!
Who gives a f... about the men, I guess most of us we only look at the women's expression. The naked guys are exposed, so it is more turning on. For me it's gay when I see self-busting or no woman's face.

I like this topic we have the chance to say what we like in bb abd what not. My turn: I don't like dungeon stuff like others said. I don't like speechless repeatedly bb too. My worst is when after or before the bb, I see dildos coming out and the guy getting fucked... pisses me off!!!I agree with everything except the speechless repeated busting, I prefer she either be mean and telling the guy to spread his legs or stand still but not much else. I'd rather she just bust his balls with either a smile or expressionless face.

I only like CFNM ballbusting, I can't stand to see the guys with clothes on and the women naked. I don't like ballbustinggoddess.com for this reason. The women have fake boobs and part of the whole thing that I like about ballbusting is the humiliation aspect. If the woman is nude or the guy is clothed it kills that part of it. The other thing I like is a womans beautiful feet/shoes connecting with the unprotected balls. I see no point in it if the guy is clothed, even wearing a shirt is pointless.

[agent_mouse]

Let me explain the cfnm thing, because I like it:
When you see a blowjob, do you look at the dick or at the woman's expression and hand and imagine that in the best case is your dick?


Look at femaledom is 99% cfnm. The guys are ugly and the girls are superhot!
Who gives a f... about the men, I guess most of us we only look at the women's expression. The naked guys are exposed, so it is more turning on. For me it's gay when I see self-busting or no woman's face.

I like this topic we have the chance to say what we like in bb abd what not. My turn: I don't like dungeon stuff like others said. I don't like speechless repeatedly bb too. My worst is when after or before the bb, I see dildos coming out and the guy getting fucked... pisses me off!!!

i always understood the reasons why you all like CFNM. so here are my reasons why i don't like it....


-i'm simply not capable of not noticing the uglyness of the guy. even if he's not that ugly....seeing a cock is disgusting to me. i just CAN'T ignore that, and i never will.

-personally (even though the psychological aspect of BB is as important to me as the physical) i don't need the guy to be humiliated by being nude. it just doesn't do it for me.

-(again) personally i think getting ballbusted feels (physically) much better, when i'm not completely nude. of course, pants (especially jeans) are way to protective. for me it feels the best when i'm wearing some underwear.

-i'm also absolutely not into that dungeon/dominatrix kind of videos. i do like staged videos, as long as the kicks are real (or at least seem like) and there is no unnecessary and horribly realized role acting. but i really like real life BB-videos the most. and if there is nudity, it can't be a real life situation.

-i think i'm the only guy on femaledom who only likes CFCM. of course i like it more when the female is dressed sexy or only in underwear, and i don't mind if the guy isn't fully clothed (in only underwear)....but I DON'T WANT TO SEE A COCK WHEN I'M ABOUT TO BEAT MY OWN! :bananad:

[blkpatent]

i always understood the reasons why you all like CFNM. so here are my reasons why i don't like it....


-i'm simply not capable of not noticing the uglyness of the guy. even if he's not that ugly....seeing a cock is disgusting to me. i just CAN'T ignore that, and i never will.

-personally (even though the psychological aspect of BB is as important to me as the physical) i don't need the guy to be humiliated by being nude. it just doesn't do it for me.

-(again) personally i think getting ballbusted feels (physically) much better, when i'm not completely nude. of course, pants (especially jeans) are way to protective. for me it feels the best when i'm wearing some underwear.

-i'm also absolutely not into that dungeon/dominatrix kind of videos. i do like staged videos, as long as the kicks are real (or at least seem like) and there is no unnecessary and horribly realized role acting. but i really like real life BB-videos the most. and if there is nudity, it can't be a real life situation.

-i think i'm the only guy on femaledom who only likes CFCM. of course i like it more when the female is dressed sexy or only in underwear, and i don't mind if the guy isn't fully clothed (in only underwear)....but I DON'T WANT TO SEE A COCK WHEN I'M ABOUT TO BEAT MY OWN! :bananad:I think that is years of conditioning that we face as men to do everything we can to avoid homosexuality. Seeing a cock on the screen in a straight sexual manner is not homosexual, the cock is a replacement for YOU, not just you looking a cock for the sake of getting off to it. Society puts a lot of pressure on us as men to do all we can to convince ourselves we aren't gay. You aren't gay, there's no issue there, there's no need to get disgusted seeing a cock in a porn pic/movie, it's really not that serious.

[agent_mouse]

I think that is years of conditioning that we face as men to do everything we can to avoid homosexuality. Seeing a cock on the screen in a straight sexual manner is not homosexual, the cock is a replacement for YOU, not just you looking a cock for the sake of getting off to it. Society puts a lot of pressure on us as men to do all we can to convince ourselves we aren't gay. You aren't gay, there's no issue there, there's no need to get disgusted seeing a cock in a porn pic/movie, it's really not that serious.

you got me completely wrong.

first, it may be true that society puts pressure on men to prove their hetero sexuality. but i never had a problem with it myself. i'm a hundred % pro-gay, in every way, except being it myself. it never bothered me what the world around me thinks about my preferences. sexuality is privacy. and i don't need to convince myself in any way, cause i am the only individual on this planet who knows what gets me off, and if a cock got me off, then i would go for it. in my personal sexual mind, where i am the king and everyone/everything else is only there to please me, i have the right to exclude any group (in my case: kids, animals, ugly women [ugly to me], etc....and MEN) that doesn't do it for me, and include any sick perverted shit i want, if it turns me on.

second, i already said i absolutely understand the reasons for liking CFNM/NFNM in spite of being straight. one example....there are sooo many straight guys out there who love seeing two girls making out with each other (and then they probably go gay-bashing)....i don't mind seeing that as well, though i'm not that fascinated by it either. but when i see a hot girl making out with a guy, then i can put myself in the position of that guy. and THAT's the reason for you to enjoy CFNM more, right?
but as soon as i see a cock, i DO get disgusted. that's how my sexmind works. i can't turn it off, and why would i want to? i feel comfortable with my sexuality just the way it is. the only relevant cock in my (sex-)life is my own. and i don't need a "replacement"....if the guy wears pants, then i still assume he does have a cock. i don't need that to be proven by having that picture in front of me while i'm jerking off. if it's necessary for you, then go for it and enjoy it. i can comprehend that completely, really. but i don't need it, so there's no reason for me to accept seeing a cock when i'm trying to get aroused. i hope i made my point of view comprehensible to you.

[blkpatent]

Understood :thumbup

[agent_mouse]

Understood :thumbup

Perfect :thumbup

[One from the Vaults]

I'm fairly straight (1 out of 6 on the Kinsey scale), so nude men don't turn me on, but if I'm going to be looking at a nude man anyway he'd fucking better be attractive.

Do you guys who don't care whether or not he's ugly just not have any sense of the aesthetic? Like... do you enjoy visual art?

That's one thing I can't stand about most mainstream porn... I can't get turned on watching musclebound douchebags fucking plastic-looking women. I want her to look natural (whether skinny or curvy doesn't matter, I go both ways), and I prefer him to look a little like me (skinny, in good shape, large side of average (but not huge) genitals and reasonably attractive). Having a similar body to me makes it easier for me to empathize and imagine that it is me, and I just prefer looking at attractive people to unattractive people.

[2001jj]

Not to diverge from this delving into homoeroticism, but I guess I'm in the minority in that I prefer a girl busting when she thinks a guy "deserves it", in self defense and especially anger/revenge scenarios. I have a thing for bitches, and I think that kicking a guy in the balls when he doesn't expect it is about the bitchiest thing a girl can do. This makes most clips from bb sites hard for me...I don't really care if she gets sexually aroused from busting, and I think it's much hotter when it's not consensual. I prefer the context of movie busts (and those usually have really hot girls), although they are usually too fake. I think the best sites were vulneraballs (best ever, man do I miss it) and cali mg, mainly because they focussed on bitchy girls busting for usually petty reasons. Oh, and because I guess I fall into the category of guys who don't like looking at other dudes' wangs.

[Warrent]

I for one, do not like it when it's about humiliation or outright pointless domination. For me there really need to be some context to it. Seeing a woman kick a guy just because, does nothing for me no matter how attractive she may be. I like it as part of a fight. Where the man is totally dominating her until she manages to get a shot in. The fact is, in real life the average man is going to win effortlessly vs the average woman 90% of the time. Reversing this in stories is not only stupid, but it also defeats the purpose of ballbusting.

I happen to not like either to be naked... it's called "bumping uglies" for a reason. If you think about it, both a man's and woman's genitalia are pretty ugly, and there really is not much you can do about that. But I love a woman's form, the smoothness, etc.

Finally, unless the guy is a jerk, there needs to be respect involved, and this is why I cannot do domination outright - context, it's all about context.

As for porn, I do not watch it, it disgusts me to be honest, totally turns me off humanity if I watch it. Gay porn, be it male-male or woman-woman disgusts me even more. I do however like to see a nice heterosexual couple kiss although that is more heartwarming than sexual. Seeing two women kiss is like spending an hour watching somebody try to attach a female coupling to a female coupling. You stupid idiot, turn the freakin coupling around!

That said, I have no issue with gay couples. They should feel free to do what they like, and if it bothers me it is my duty to look away - not complain.

[agent_mouse]

I for one, do not like it when it's about humiliation or outright pointless domination. For me there really need to be some context to it. Seeing a woman kick a guy just because, does nothing for me no matter how attractive she may be. I like it as part of a fight. Where the man is totally dominating her until she manages to get a shot in. The fact is, in real life the average man is going to win effortlessly vs the average woman 90% of the time. Reversing this in stories is not only stupid, but it also defeats the purpose of ballbusting.

I happen to not like either to be naked... it's called "bumping uglies" for a reason. If you think about it, both a man's and woman's genitalia are pretty ugly, and there really is not much you can do about that. But I love a woman's form, the smoothness, etc.

Finally, unless the guy is a jerk, there needs to be respect involved, and this is why I cannot do domination outright - context, it's all about context.

As for porn, I do not watch it, it disgusts me to be honest, totally turns me off humanity if I watch it. Gay porn, be it male-male or woman-woman disgusts me even more. I do however like to see a nice heterosexual couple kiss although that is more heartwarming than sexual. Seeing two women kiss is like spending an hour watching somebody try to attach a female coupling to a female coupling. You stupid idiot, turn the freakin coupling around!

That said, I have no issue with gay couples. They should feel free to do what they like, and if it bothers me it is my duty to look away - not complain.

i think you and me have some things in common.