How I think I got into ballbusting..

[hurtlemon128]

Hi Im very interested in why us guys like to have our most sensitive
and private parts abused like we do. I try to looo=k back to see how
I got to where I am today and I'd be interested if any of you wanted
to do the same.
My first'ballbusting' memory is when I was about 10 and a girl in my
class threatened to kick me where it hurts.. I ws prob more
embarrased than scared by this and remember anwsering tht it would
hurt whereever she kicked me. Wierd answer! I don't know why I said
that!
I remember self busting myself from my early teens pretty much since
I became sexually mature.
I was also very interested in girls and all the girls I knew were
from school . The first girl I remember fancying.. Monica was a year
younger and well built but not fat or even chubby she had strong
thigh and large boobs a bit of an Amazon.. I was in awe of her and I
remember meeting her at lunchtimes when I was about 16 I don't
remember much sadly.. but we did mess about quite immaturely and I
do remember that she would practically invite me to touch her
breasts at which point she would punch me in the balls and act all
shocked.. she did this in front of her friend Claire.. I would
double up and hold my nuts thinking about how her tit had felt when
I touched it. She laughed at me and clearly enjoyed it. It didn't
even register that she might fancy me even when my mate who ended up
going out with Claire told me she did. I never asked her out. Which
I regret.
The next girl I fancied was kinda dorky but I liked her for ages and
never got the guts to ask her out. I would rather immaturely try to
get her attention and showoff. One day she was on the field with two
of her friends I stole thier tennis ball and instead of her chsing
me like I hoped her friend Nicola did.. she was kinda cute but very
short and when i got tired she caught me up and I laughed at her
trying to jump up to get the ball (I am quite tall and was prob 6ft
even then) ..she got pissed off and kneed me. I doubled up dropping
her ball and grabbing mine. Despite the pain all I could think of
was that I had just been kicked in the balls by a very small girl
right in front of the girl I was trying to impress. I ran off in
embarrasment and stopped fancying her soon after.
I got kicked in the nuts a couple of times by guys at school but
ithurt and it was different and I didn't like it at all.
The next girls I knew were 3 friends one of whom was called Rebecca.
She had big tits to but Ifancied her friend who ws a gorgoeus
Hungarian girl. Rebecca was a real ballbuster and know I don't
remember her ever busting me she always talked about itand obviously
loved doing it.
One time I remember trying to tell her the joke "why do women have
legs?" before I could deliver the punchline "so they can walk from
the bedroom to the kitchen".. she said "so they can kick guys in the
balls"
Another time we we in a group talking and she was saying that guys
get a funny highpitched voice when they get busted. I disagreed
saying that was only in the movies, she dared me to let her kick me
so that we could put it to the test.. which I didn't ! I kinda wish
I had now.. even though long afterwards I found out from a very
honest source who knew her brother that she had kicked him in the
balls so hard he had lost one! I honestly believe she did.
After that I had a few minor busts/opportunites for bust but settled
down to getting girls and fucking them.
This went on into Uni where cheating on my gf I went out with a girl
called Justine she was another girl who loved ballbusting.. she was
a rock chick and was very flat chested but loved sex and I loved
fucking her. I think she is the only girl who I ever fucked how
orgasme without me even trying. She was always punching me in the
nuts and loved to laugh at me groaning afterwards. She I don't
remember her doing it during sex though but she did grab and twist
my cock once.
One time me and a mate were in the pub and were nicking her fags..
she stood in the middle of the pub called me over smiling, I went
over ad put my arms around her waist thinking she was gunna kiss me
when she kneed me right infront of everyone. It was quite a rough
pub and the landlord only warned her not to do it again!
She was cool but eventually my gf caught on and they even met.. the
mad thing was neither of em kicked me in the nuts for cheating!
My gf at the time I loved very much.. I would have loved for her to
bust me but I knew she wasn't into it.. the wrong type. I never
asked a girl to bust much later. In an email conversation recently I
even said to her she should have kicked me in the balls and she
ignoreed the comment! Some girls are wot I call homely and regard
balls only for thier reproductive qualities so wouldn't do it for
that reason even though I think all girls secretly would love to do
it.
My current gf falls into this category.. in the years we have been
going out she has threatened to kick me and has even grabbed or hit
my balls lightly .. but never very hard. I know she finds it funny
cos she laughed when I got hit in the balls by accident at an
airport by someones bag. This was very embarrasing and i felt a bit
angry .. maybe cos it was a guys bag.. i would prob have liked it
more if it had been a woman.
After going out for about 5 years I realised I would not get busted
at home so I eventually arranged to see 'someone' to give it a go.
I found someone very close 45 min drive in the end. and paid her a
visit. It was 100 quid for an hour. She was sexy and even though she
started off gentle to see how I would react we quickly moved on to
very hard kicks and grabs. I loved it and took alot of punishment
loving being on the floor at her feet. She was actually quite
impressed at how much I could take and invited me back to do some
videos with her which I ended up doing four in fact. I got alot of
punishment but loved it and would love to go back and do another.
Looking back I think I was pretty much into ballbusting as soon as I
ws sexually mature. I think it is instictive unless there are things
I don't remember that played a part. I longed to be busted by a girl
but was either too scared or too busy tryna get in her pants to
actually do it. Having regular sex thus losing interest in finding it
and finding ballbusting material online definately were factors in
my acknowledgement to myself that I liked it. It also encouraged me
to self bust more.
Now I find that I am extremely turned on by girls kicking guys in the balls either by accident, when play fighting or just for fun. I don't necessarily want sex afterwards I just really like her reaction to her hurting me so easily and in such a personal place, Its just really frustrating that now its almost impossilbe to find a girl who will do it. I don't doubt I could get kicked in the nuts in a second if I went out lookijng for it on a friday or saturday night but im not into harrasing girls and I want it to be fun and not scarey for either party..

Anyway I hope someone find this useful in understanding themselves
and I would be glad to read other people stories to confirm my
theories.. Please leave the fantasy side of it to other threads tho!
Thanks!

[dellazeus]

Thanks for posting that open and honest account. You start off by saying you were threatened by a girl when you were young and then had some fairly violent and humiliating experiences when you were going through puberty. And close by opining that ballbusting might be instinctive, or perfectly normal....

Is it at all possible that there's a very clear correlation here you might be missing? Have you thought about this perspective?

Cos I have a similar background in some senses, and I have been unravelling it in counseling after trying for years to understand and re-enact it, as many people do with sexual trauma, and I can't believe I never put the obvious pieces together sooner.

I was first kicked when I was about 5 and after that my cousin started trying to get more blatant sexual favours from me and use ********** and busting as a threat, and as a way to compensate for her own feelings of inadequacy. It seems to be a common theme in these 'how it all started' stories.

Subsequently, when I started to trust my now wife enough to get physically intimate, ball busting and ********** threats came up. That was 10 years ago, and we tried re-enacting and making her like my cousin, and it's taken up till now to actually understand what was going on all that time, and understand things I take for granted now, like 'triggers', 'body memories' and 'flashbacks'. It's a revelation how the mind works and how we men in particular try our best to make sense of and accept how we feel by acting out.

[aniMALE]

I think that the widespread male child abuse by girls and women and the total absence of any sort recognition from society leads to a lot of ballbusting fans.

And all this ballbusting fans will be viewed by society as the classical male perverts because perversion and manliness is often associated by this feminist society.

[dellazeus]

I think that the widespread male child abuse by girls and women and the total absence of any sort recognition from society leads to a lot of ballbusting fans.

And all this ballbusting fans will be viewed by society as the classical male perverts because perversion and manliness is often associated by this feminist society.

I agree, in a sense this is totally true. But ironically I get free counselling from a left-wing feminazi organisation, an NGO funded by the government. I have had some grief, but in the end I was able to see a male counsellor and avoid the propaganda shit. Although I did tear down a poster that had a quote from the book 'Gather the women, save the world' in the waiting room a few weeks ago.

But I'm not trying to hijack this thread by any means, I just want you to know there is help. It's very limited, because research and recognition is very limited, but it does exist. And the irony is that because gays and feminists go together in political terms, being a man - I can get help that way, through the back door, if you'll pardon the terrible pun. The staff can assume I was abused by a man, and let them think that. My real shit is between me and my therapist.

As far as I'm concerned the only way to rectify things is for more of us to get help, to want to be whole and to eventually be counted. I met a guy on a camp who is doing research into abuse and he's had several guys who were abused by women approach him to participate. On the partners forum my wife has joined, several women there have partners who were abused by women, mothers mostly....

I used to be utterly hopeless, but now I see small cracks in the Big Brother façade, and the more we come forward the more people have to deal with us and face facts. And most of all see us as human beings, with the same rights as anyone else, deserving respect, whether or not we're into ballbusting is irrelevant to how we should be treated. If you check out female survivors you'll they get into bondage and role playing as well to try and cope. I've decided I am normal and I won't hear otherwise from anyone. and for now I like ballbusting and several other 'fetishes' and they help me deal with my shit while i work through the underlying emotions. As far as I am concerned that's a good plan.