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delusion
08-15-2008, 12:31 PM
I mean we like dominant women, getting kicked, punched, slapped in the balls, being dominated. But most of the women in real life like strong men. My personality was never in the way of my fetish but last days I started to cum real late when I'm having normal sex. I'm afraid of losing interest in boobs, ass, bj, hj, straight fucking and normal stuff like that. Hope my domination fetish won't be a "only" turn of for me. :confused:

lovethatflavor
08-15-2008, 01:21 PM
I mean we like dominant women, getting kicked, punched, slapped in the balls, being dominated. But most of the women in real life like strong men. My personality was never in the way of my fetish but last days I started to cum real late when I'm having normal sex. I'm afraid of losing interest in boobs, ass, bj, hj, straight fucking and normal stuff like that. Hope my domination fetish won't be a "only" turn of for me. :confused:
being dominant and being dominated. The trick is knowing when to draw the line between the two. I don't think a man would lose interest in the normal male turnon's even after his balls were destroyed or he was *********. Its too ingrained in who you are as a man. Though at the same time you may lose the drive to act on your wants. My husband does a very good job of playing the strong and weak one in our relationship. I like to think I do a good job the same way.

jaguarpeople2
08-15-2008, 01:58 PM
depends how far it stretches, it doesnt affect me, as i am usually the dominating one, after a bit of wrestling and a kick in foreplay, i usually end up pinning her down before pumping her,

shell squeeze and slap me once im inside her,

also i pay attention to all body parts, and my sex life revolves around normal sex, any bb is just a treat

remember that the main point of bb and main turn on, is that the strong male has an obvious weakness which the woman can use, (for me anyway) once it turns into these internet vids that you see where the guy is all shackled up and totally submissive it does nothing for me

delusion
08-15-2008, 03:28 PM
actually I don't know even if I'm into this bdsm thing. I just used to masturbate to straight normal porns till I found sites like that, then I started masturbate just to the vids of femdom and mostly ballbusting. can a man be into getting dominated, ballbusted and straigh and normal sex at the same time? I'm afraid of losing my interest to the normal sex. :confused::confused::confused:

Dernholm
08-15-2008, 05:09 PM
I don't think a man would lose interest in the normal male turnon's even after his balls were destroyed or he was *********. Its too ingrained in who you are as a man. Though at the same time you may lose the drive to act on your wants.

I believe most men would. Only a rare few wouldn't lose interest in sex, mostly those who take testosterone hormones as a supplement. You don't have any wants or a drive anymore, unless you are seriously fixated on the matter(like most who would voluntarily want to destroy their balls.)

moosh
08-15-2008, 05:45 PM
actually I don't know even if I'm into this bdsm thing. I just used to masturbate to straight normal porns till I found sites like that, then I started masturbate just to the vids of femdom and mostly ballbusting. can a man be into getting dominated, ballbusted and straigh and normal sex at the same time? I'm afraid of losing my interest to the normal sex. :confused::confused::confused:

Yeah, I'd say you can be into both. I still like both ballbusting porn and mainstream porn.

You could compromise and watch more BB combined with BJ, sex etc - like in Brother Love, ******** and other sites.

But yeah, if you watch a lot of BB then you're probably going to want a little of it in your sex life...

delusion
08-16-2008, 07:49 AM
yeah it was the same for me for a long time but nowadays I feel like I'm losing interest to mainstrem porn and normal sex and this thing got me scared. I'm using and SSRI antidepressant and maybe that's why I want normal sex less. I don't know:confused::confused::confused: thank you for your opinions mates.

HKG7
08-16-2008, 10:32 AM
I have not noticed any setback in my sex life. Well in the last three years I did not mentioned about my little fetish to any of my partners, what also means I am having quite short term relationships, saidly. :( But, there were no woman complaining about my performance. :) I did not even needed to fantasize about anything, because they simply knew how to make themself hot. I think I need this kinda stuff only if my partner is not "compatibile" in sex, what definetly happened before.

drkwolf222
08-16-2008, 04:06 PM
actually what you are going through is what i call a downer ... i go through periods where ill be relly turned on by BDSM and not really intrested in my other likes ( Anime, Furry art, big breasts) then a few weeks later ill have a bit of a shift.

one thing that can help is ABstain from sex or sexual stimulants for a bout 2 weeks and let your self build up some ... trust me you will start looking at any thing with round hips with a bit more intrest...

right now you are kinda burned out on sex that why you are feeling less inspired by the normal things

Tinchen
08-16-2008, 04:14 PM
actually I don't know even if I'm into this bdsm thing. I just used to masturbate to straight normal porns till I found sites like that, then I started masturbate just to the vids of femdom and mostly ballbusting. can a man be into getting dominated, ballbusted and straigh and normal sex at the same time? I'm afraid of losing my interest to the normal sex. :confused::confused::confused:

Just be relaxed - everything in life has its time. The fact that you are in BB today doesen't have to mean you can't make sweet love to your girl tomorrow...believe me! I know.......

delusion
08-17-2008, 01:41 PM
hey dudes. don't know what to say. thank you very much. really! you helped a lot! I'll listen ur advices. :ibow4u:

uspsfanalan
08-18-2008, 08:57 AM
Hey Delusion, good name. Yeah, I've been into ball busting basically my whole life. I liked the idea of my balls being squeezed since as long as I can remember. I started looking at ball busting porn about 8 years ago. Now I'm sort of addicted to it. When I have sex I don't finish unless I think about getting my balls busted or am being busted. So you are right to be concerned. What I would recommend is staying off of the bb sites and focus on your actual girlfriend and what you find sexy about her. I quit the site for about 6 months, and the sex was never better. I don't know why I came back, but when I did it was sort of unappealing. Its sort of like the first beer you drink, the first beer is really nasty tasting, after you get used to the taste its actually quite good, that's how I feel about ball busting. I'm just lucky my wife is willing to slap my nuts.

illusionweaver
08-18-2008, 10:00 AM
Explaining to people who aren't into it can be embarrasing, but I guess everyone has at least one unusual fetish in the end.