Anyone with advise calming down/getting rid of this fetish?

[careballs]

hey i was wondering if anyone had any advise on losing this fetish? i like it but its kind of embarrising and hard to accept. i recently had my first experience, although i was hammered, i really liked it. i have been into it for as long as i can remember, however this was my first experience with it. i find if i ignore it, i tend to look at more extreme pictures/videos when i do end up falling back into it. regular porn just cuts it for so long. the only other success i have had is finding blowjobs/handjobs/or porno's where the girls pay close attention to the balls. i think thats more of my fetish but busting is the only place i can find dedication to girls touching balls. anyways, i was wondering if anyone had any advice at all about either getting rid of or calming this fetish down? ... hopefully without medication or therpy. thanks all

[careballs]

sorry to make it two posts, but i am also interested in the mental aspect of this fetish. i believe if i can get to the bottom of it, i can overcome it, so any medical articles on this particular fetish, NOT any kind of torture but slight busting/control aspect. thanks again

[szszsz]

The more you try to suppress it, the stronger your urges will become....sorry if this is no help. but i recommend trying to live with it.....its nothing to be embarrassed about......having an attraction to little girls, asking girls to shit on you......thats embarrassing....our fetish is quite normal....i say enjoy it all you can :bananad:
best of luck

[dark]

I have calmed it down but I don't want to get rid of it.
The only way I can say is if you get ballbusted by your girlfriend.
I have my balls kicked, kneed, punched, slapped, threatened, pulled by a number of girlfriends of different nationalities, so in a way I have lived my fetish a number of times. I must say that I don't feel the same urge as before.

Now if you ask me how to make your girlfriend ballbust you then this is another question.

[iron horse]

sorry to make it two posts, but i am also interested in the mental aspect of this fetish. i believe if i can get to the bottom of it, i can overcome it, so any medical articles on this particular fetish, NOT any kind of torture but slight busting/control aspect. thanks again

That's the first time I've ever heard someone post such a deep and self reflecting question, and you should be commended for doing it.

Over the years I've asked myself this many times. Fetish desires vary so differently that I do agree with others, ours is certainly not extreme when compared to others that society has branded illegal. But that's no consolation.

There are a number of ways you can approach it. Yours seem to be to get at the very root of what causes it such as experiences when growing up, address those matters and through that you will come to terms with the source and thus fix it while changing your direction. I *personally* believe that doesn't work. I have gay members in my family and learned that they tried that growing up and ended up in ICU because of attempted suicide from not being able to deal with being gay. Pedophiles are 80%+ repeat offenders regardless of their "rehabilitation" while in prison (80% means 80% get caught again).

So, how do we shake our sexual yearnings in one way or another?

When taking a psychology class at college many years ago, I learned one school of thought is that fetishes grow due to what you fantasize about, particularly when masturbating. It's the same thing as becoming overweight eating foods that fire up your endorphins, which in turn drive you to eat more.

Wikipedia says that endorphins are chemical compounds that are produced by the pituitary gland and the hypothalamus in during strenuous exercise, excitement, and orgasm, and they resemble the opiates in their abilities to produce analgesia and a sense of well-being. Thus, your body becomes accustomed to the release of endorphins when the brain thinks about ballbusting because of so many repeated experiences. The association between the two makes it very, very difficult to break. There are evolutionary reasons for this association, but that's another long story.

The ONLY process I've ever heard of that really works was something I saw during a documentary of prisons and rehabilitation. A recovered inmate was teaching the class in prison. He was talking sternly to the inmates about breaking bad sexual habits. He basically said "if you want to change, don't THINK about it. Don't THINK about naked women, don't THINK about those sexual things you want to do. And when you QUIT thinking about it, eventually, the desire goes away."

I've tried this, and yes, it works, but it isn't easy. Not only for sexual addictions, but other things like over eating or other addictions that kick off those damned endorphins. Let the brain process something different. When you masturbate, think of something different that's arousing to you, but yet more "acceptable". Being attacked by a naked cheerleading squad seems to work for me (but then I started having fantasies about the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders).

[iron horse]

sorry to make it two posts, but i am also interested in the mental aspect of this fetish. i believe if i can get to the bottom of it, i can overcome it, so any medical articles on this particular fetish, NOT any kind of torture but slight busting/control aspect. thanks again

That's the first time I've ever heard someone post such a deep and self reflecting question, and you should be commended for doing it.

Over the years I've asked myself this many times. Fetish desires vary so differently that I do agree with others, ours is certainly not extreme when compared to others that society has branded illegal. But that's no consolation.

There are a number of ways you can approach it. Yours seem to be to get at the very root of what causes it, address those matters and through that you will change your direction. I *personally* believe that doesn't work. I have gay members in my family and learned that they tried that growing up and ended up in ICU because of attempted suicide from not being able to deal with being gay. Pedophiles are 80%+ repeat offenders regardless of their "rehabilitation" while in prison (80% means 80% get caught again).

So, how do we shake our sexual yearnings in one way or another?

When taking a psychology class at college many years ago, I learned one school of thought is that fetishes grow due to what you fantasize about, particularly when masturbating. It's the same thing as becoming overweight eating foods that fire up your endorphins, which in turn drive you to eat more. Ask yourself this..have you always have had this intense desire for this fetish? My guess is no. Then ask yourself how it became more intense over the years. My guess is repeatedly going back to these thoughts to self please yourself created an addiction that grew and grew to its present level of intensity.

Medical dictionaries tell us that endorphins are chemical compounds that are produced by the pituitary gland and the hypothalamus during strenuous exercise, excitement, and orgasm, and they resemble the opiates in their abilities to produce analgesia and a sense of well-being. Thus, your body becomes accustomed to the release of endorphins when the brain thinks about ballbusting because of so many repeated experiences. The association between the two makes it very, very difficult to break. There are evolutionary reasons for this association, but that's another long story.

The ONLY process I've ever heard of that really works was something I saw during a documentary of prisons and rehabilitation. A recovered inmate was teaching the class in prison. He was talking sternly to the inmates about breaking bad sexual habits. He basically said "if you want to change, don't THINK about it. Don't THINK about naked women, don't THINK about those sexual things you want to do. And when you QUIT thinking about it, eventually, the desire goes away." If you are religious or follow the teachings of such philosophers as Wayne Dyer, then you may know the ancient quote from Proverbs "As you think, so shall you be." It is about our letting our mind get polluted, then, we actually change how we think about things, how others view us and what we do all because of those thoughts we intentionally let our brain have.

I've tried this, and yes, it works, but it isn't easy. Not only for sexual addictions, but other things like over eating or other addictions that kick off those damned endorphins. Let the brain process something different. When you masturbate, think of something different that's arousing to you, but yet more "acceptable". Being attacked by a naked cheerleading squad seems to work for me (but then I started having fantasies about the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders, and THAT's a fantasy I DO want!)

[bbforme]

EMBRACE it.

Everyone has a fetish. Anal, bottoms, bellies, bondage, black people, asians, boobs, objects, etc.

Who can say where these things come from? Did you PLAN on being a bb fetishist? Neither did the guy who is into hardcore anal plan his fetish. Likely, there is some deep-seated experience that triggered some arousal in us at a young age. It is said that we go through several sexual growth stages, the first starting close to the toddler years. (That's why you see those little rugrats touching themselves in the pool). You are bound to be extra impressionable during that first sexual awakening (or two). For me, the first bb related memory I have is a little girl busting a playground bully in the 4th grade. I was shocked by the power a sweet innocent girl could have over a male (and aroused too, apparently).

My point is, your particular fetish is no more right or wrong than others. There are as many different fetishes as there are people walking the earth. As long as you aren't harming yourself (greatly) or others, there is no reason to see your specific tastes as particularly bad. If you think there isn't aggression or dark subliminal urges to "invade and conquer" tied to ramming one's penis into a girl's vagina, you are mistaken. This is part of human nature, and it takes many different forms. Normal is an extremely flimsy word.

[pain berries]

I think Iron Horse above gives good advice. The more you think about a fetish, the more it takes over your life. If you find other things to arouse you, and stay well away from sites such as this one, then over the months you'll think about it less and less.

[smackMyNuts]

My advice: every time you feel like trying bb, come read these forums instead. You can focus especially on the threads with all the fighting and penis-waving. Those will turn anyone off in no time. It'll be sort of a bait-and-switch for your brain.

Smack

[moosh]

Hmmm... asking for advice on how to lose the fetish from people who frequently visit a site dedicated to it........?

[Takkyuu_tama]

Hmmm... asking for advice on how to lose the fetish from people who frequently visit a site dedicated to it........?

I think the reasoning is that some of us may have wondered as to our own personal origins of this fetish, and be able to provide insight. Me, I've been into this for over a decade and I'm not sure I could identify one specific formative experience. I do know that now, I get harder and more excited when I'm busted, and like it or not--that's an interesting expression in this case--my body does turn that pain into pleasure.

I'm curious if anyone thinks this is linked to other aspects of one's personality. Giving up control, being passive, the freedom in surrender, liking trains, etc, or in other directions that their interests take. Sex is deeply tied into fantasies of power, be it its exercise or bequeathing unto others. I notice lots of fantasies involving games, machines, and random chance...arbitrariness, capriciousness on the part of the dominant party. Anyone want to take a venture onto these trends?

I almost take the opposite tack from careballs...sometimes I'd rather not know the reasons for all this, and just enjoy the ride and the exploration instead. Of course if you find you absolutely cannot function without this fetish being involved, well, it may be time to expand your thoughts into more mainstream arenas...get some exercise, find a girl who wants to be dominated instead, see if your chemical balance points you toward different pursuits. That said, I would be curious to find some correlations among BB enthusiasts--gamblers/nongamblers? high/low education levels? girl type preferences?

See, here I've gone and overanalyzed it. Took all the fun out of it--wait... <thump thump thump> ahhh....no i haven't.

long live BB!

[gopballbustеr2]

I don't want to get rid of this fetish because I'm not a homo. I like to be busted by WOMEN!!!

[bashballs]

hey i was wondering if anyone had any advise on losing this fetish? i like it but its kind of embarrising and hard to accept. i recently had my first experience, although i was hammered, i really liked it. i have been into it for as long as i can remember, however this was my first experience with it. i find if i ignore it, i tend to look at more extreme pictures/videos when i do end up falling back into it. regular porn just cuts it for so long. the only other success i have had is finding blowjobs/handjobs/or porno's where the girls pay close attention to the balls. i think thats more of my fetish but busting is the only place i can find dedication to girls touching balls. anyways, i was wondering if anyone had any advice at all about either getting rid of or calming this fetish down? ... hopefully without medication or therpy. thanks all


and then take it till near death.


if you survive, and still want some, you are meant to live this way FOREVER!!!


if it is for someone who isnt into it whom you love, just shut up and do as you think you should.


cant stop wanting to eat, even if we got nutrition pills...


some time you will want to consume some chewables... know what i am getting at?

[nijan0]

Let the brain process something different. When you masturbate, think of something different that's arousing to you, but yet more "acceptable". Being attacked by a naked cheerleading squad seems to work for me (but then I started having fantasies about the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders).
ROTFL :D :D :D

Sorry for the meaningless post, but it just was too funny

[martin87-]

I once was a bit concerned about my fetish. But I think the more you try not to think the more you do. So I guess I can only say that try to get used to it and try to find some other more "acceptable" things you would like. And with time you also somewhat lose interest I think. Not all interest but it becomes too casual and you also interest of other things. I hope I made some sense.

[Richter]

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[cracker]

Have a woman really hurt your balls past your pain tolerance (but avoid injury). If necessary, be tied up. Masturbate just prior to having her bust you so to reduce the turn on and increase the pain. Take several sudafed to make it harder to get hard. If you get hard anyway, instruct her to pinch your penis sufficiently to down the erection. If the fetish continues, I think you're stuck with it. In that case, embrace it. Your girlfriend says it's ok, then satisfy her and have her hurt your balls, too. Your gf is against it. Screw your girlfriend (literally). Enjoy the sensations and think about her (or whoever) busting you while you screw her. She'll never know your thoughts. Watch hard ballbusting videos --- to enjoy and because watching them over and over will desensitize you to them; the thrill from watching them should gradually become less and less. (The Rodney King jury phenomena --- after watching the tape 50 times it didn't look so bad to the jury; certainly not as bad as the first time they saw it.) I'm happy with my bb fetish. Ballbusting (real or imagined) and intercourse and turning my gf on make me happy.

[Sicckmind]

Thats a interesting question. I once felt the same way. I felt weird and sick about enjoying women punishing testicles. I would do my thing and then be completely grossed out by the act of BB. After awhile of watching many videos I got over it and accepted my fetish. I love it now. I enjoy watching it so much. But I will say that I still get turned on by all sorts of porn. Even regular porn still lights my torch. I love women's asses,legs, Handjobs, blowjobs, 2 lesbian superheros going at it .. U name it - I love it ! Not into the real real real weird shit .. Like shit eating or shitting on each other and rubbing it all around, strap-ons in males, ****** bi, cross dressing or balloon popping or women stepping on toy soldiers ? Or pissing, or strangling .. basically that list can go on forever .. But I love women and I love a really hot chick in high heels nailing some guy in his bare dingleberries .. Its just hot to me. Everyone has their fetish but all im thankful for is that my fetish requires women and not me dressing like one or me getting fucked by one. Just me getting pleasured by a women. Thank goodness. No offense to anyone who enjoys all that other stuff. Enjoy your fetishes I say. FTW :thumbup

[ballstothewalls]

just think of your mom whenever you think of bb. Works whenever i need a boner to go away.

[Snakelinux]

You could see a therapist. They consider fetishes to be mental disorders and would be happy to help you. They are not cheap though.

[Altamesa]

hey i was wondering if anyone had any advise on losing this fetish? i like it but its kind of embarrising and hard to accept.

If you think it’s embarrassing and awkward for you, try a female perspective. Can you even know what it’s like to be totally unable to control giving a guy you have the serious hots for a finger-snap in the balls, a cock-bite, or something like that, and then have him go just a little ballistic on you for doing it? It‘s an incredibly hard thing to control when it‘s so ungodly stimulating. Cripes, it’s just impossible to control!!.
A fetish of any kind is such a powerful attraction that I honestly don’t think it can be fully suppressed. It’s freakin heaven though when you find someone very special that either shares your fetish, or lets you indulge in it because they know and understand what it does for you. I know my guy is more into it for the sex when I am totally wired and raging with desire, but then again maybe he enjoys a chick clawing up his back and ass when she’s in the throes of ecstasy.
You and someone you share this fetish with are the only ones who have to know, and I say go with what pleases you. You only go around once, so you might as well enjoy the ride to the fullest. That’s my .02 cents on it anyway.

[Alec Anaconda]

Let’s throw some daylight on this subject.

For a start, a sexual fetish is the sexual attraction to materials and objects not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature.
(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fetishism (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fetishism)).
Arousal by a woman’s shoe, without her foot, is an example of a sexual fetish.

At the risk of stating the bleeding obvious:
ball work, even if light or incidental, is present in most sexual encounters involving a man.

Provided you are not causing chronic damage, delight in this popular variation! Enjoy, and leave the guilt to others.

If you sincerely want ballbusting to become less important, then add a different sexual spice to your life.

At a push, you could read some of my eBooks for ideas.