How to find woman interested in moderate CBT...

[cracker]

I thought of placing a crapigslist ad (casual encounter probably) looking for "neophyte amateur" (or close to neophyte) interested in moderate, consensual CBT. Best case scenario would be for this to be partner I know who is "normal" male liking woman with desire to push the boundaries a bit in terms of her always wondering about CBT (mutual respect and intelligence required) and possibly having interest in some moderate reciprocation in the form of modest pain to her clitoris or, at least, nipples. At a a minimum, rough intercourse. (I'm not the least interested in humiliation. Play acting could work if honest.) I know that's asking for a lot. Especially since I suspect there are many more men interested in CBT than women. I'd prefer to avoid a "professional." It wouldn't be nearly as exciting for me. Her wanting to know what hitting balls feels like (or at least enjoying hitting balls) is a major part of the turn on.

I figure craigslist is a good idea although it would take "guts" for a normal, amateur woman to respond. I'm harmless and normal but she doesn't know that and may have trouble admitting her desire to test the pain tolerance of balls even to herself. Especially with a stranger.

As far as I know, there is nothing illegal about this so an intelligent woman just might go for it.

My biggest fear is things not going as per plan with a stranger or a personality conflict with a stranger. Secondarily, some jerks (maybe male) getting their kicks by falsely leading me on. (Does craigslist police against this, perhaps called "impersonation" or something?) I can picture some bored guys doing this --- and I bet at least one wants his balls roughly massaged by an attractive woman.

Any thoughts? You only live once...and I am now single. Anyone else tried this or wanted to.

[moosh]

I say go for it, you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

[Teardrop]

Hello Cracker,

I tend to think that if you speak from the heart, and are clear about what you are asking for, the person reading will respond to that. From your post above, you give the impression of being a very honest and thoughtful person, so that's a great start right there. You may be surprised how many women are also interested in sharing your CBT fantasies. I hope you find someone.

[bashballs]

I thought of placing a crapigslist ad (casual encounter probably) looking for "neophyte amateur" (or close to neophyte) interested in moderate, consensual CBT. Best case scenario would be for this to be partner I know who is "normal" male liking woman with desire to push the boundaries a bit in terms of her always wondering about CBT (mutual respect and intelligence required) and possibly having interest in some moderate reciprocation in the form of modest pain to her clitoris or, at least, nipples. At a a minimum, rough intercourse. (I'm not the least interested in humiliation. Play acting could work if honest.) I know that's asking for a lot. Especially since I suspect there are many more men interested in CBT than women. I'd prefer to avoid a "professional." It wouldn't be nearly as exciting for me. Her wanting to know what hitting balls feels like (or at least enjoying hitting balls) is a major part of the turn on.

I figure craigslist is a good idea although it would take "guts" for a normal, amateur woman to respond. I'm harmless and normal but she doesn't know that and may have trouble admitting her desire to test the pain tolerance of balls even to herself. Especially with a stranger.

As far as I know, there is nothing illegal about this so an intelligent woman just might go for it.

My biggest fear is things not going as per plan with a stranger or a personality conflict with a stranger. Secondarily, some jerks (maybe male) getting their kicks by falsely leading me on. (Does craigslist police against this, perhaps called "impersonation" or something?) I can picture some bored guys doing this --- and I bet at least one wants his balls roughly massaged by an attractive woman.

Any thoughts? You only live once...and I am now single. Anyone else tried this or wanted to.


unfortunately most are in the bay erea, and i am much farther north. but i have been busted ect. where i am a few times. you should search for "munches" in youre local erea. if you dont know what a munch is, it is a group of kinksters, who find a resturaunt with a room for private parties, or is BDSM friendly, and they gather usualy once a month, to discuss BDSM, and to socialise. if there is someone near you whom is into what you are that would be the place to look. and talk to people, because even if she isnt at the munch, the folks there tend to know eachother, and someone there may very well say something like "you know who would love him?... sandy! do we still have her e mail?"

[bashballs]

I thought of placing a crapigslist ad (casual encounter probably) looking for "neophyte amateur" (or close to neophyte) interested in moderate, consensual CBT. Best case scenario would be for this to be partner I know who is "normal" male liking woman with desire to push the boundaries a bit in terms of her always wondering about CBT (mutual respect and intelligence required) and possibly having interest in some moderate reciprocation in the form of modest pain to her clitoris or, at least, nipples. At a a minimum, rough intercourse. (I'm not the least interested in humiliation. Play acting could work if honest.) I know that's asking for a lot. Especially since I suspect there are many more men interested in CBT than women. I'd prefer to avoid a "professional." It wouldn't be nearly as exciting for me. Her wanting to know what hitting balls feels like (or at least enjoying hitting balls) is a major part of the turn on.

I figure craigslist is a good idea although it would take "guts" for a normal, amateur woman to respond. I'm harmless and normal but she doesn't know that and may have trouble admitting her desire to test the pain tolerance of balls even to herself. Especially with a stranger.

As far as I know, there is nothing illegal about this so an intelligent woman just might go for it.

My biggest fear is things not going as per plan with a stranger or a personality conflict with a stranger. Secondarily, some jerks (maybe male) getting their kicks by falsely leading me on. (Does craigslist police against this, perhaps called "impersonation" or something?) I can picture some bored guys doing this --- and I bet at least one wants his balls roughly massaged by an attractive woman.

Any thoughts? You only live once...and I am now single. Anyone else tried this or wanted to.


once down south, i met a woman at a munch, through someone else, just as i explained. i have done so several times, but this time she showed up at my house, and first thing she says is she wants to tie me up. i said no, as i dont even know her, and had no saftey call or other saftey net in place. she persisted relentlessly for about 15 minuits (putting me off, i might add) when there was a knock at my door. she moved to the edge of my couch and i sternly told her i would answer my own door. when i did this guy started to walk right in, and diddnt realise it wasnt her as he had his head down. i am sure to hide his face from any neighbors. he looked up in genuine shock, and knowing something was very wrong i said "what the FUCK do YOU want?!?"

i am a large threatening man, or so i am told, and this guy... well he wasnt. she runns out the door past me grabbing his arm, and dissapear into the night. about 2 or 3 hours later, the lady who introduced us calls me and asks, "why did my best friend and my boyfriend just come to my house, and rob me at knife point and take off in the car?"

as i understand it the pair had gotten into meth not that much earlier, and no one had cought on yet. i dont know if they were cought... although one would have to assume 2 people stupid enough to try and pull that on me, when there was an easy trail back to them, and then to rob someone whom fully knows who you are as a plan b must have gone to jail for SOMETHING!

its like robbing a bank in a small town where everyone knows you, while still in youre gas station work cloths and the name tag still on. lol.

but any time you are meeting with strangers it can be dangerous... and even people we think we know can turn out to be bad people.

[Alec Anaconda]

This is going to sound boring and old fashioned, but try finding a woman you fancy by normal dating.

When sex rears its head, find out what she likes and tell her what you enjoy.

You might be pleasantly surprised.

[evafound]

i like alec anacondas idea...seems more like a trustworthy plan as you will see the person with your own eyes.

[cracker]

I have had girlfriends squeeze my balls some as they masturbate me. (It seems like the first time they've done it for all I asked --- and they usually start off VERY softly.) One seemed to enjoy it a bit but the others were somewhat put off, perhaps thinking me strange. So I tended not to push it. The one who liked it a bit enjoyed having her parts roughly handled (nipples, very hard intercourse --- until she got a bit hurt down there). That was nice. Until she got a bit injured (nothing serious).

My present gf (know her only a month) might do it to satisfy me but doesn't get turned on by it and only likes to be very softly touched herself. So not a good candidate for that.

I want to finally meet someone who is into it. Who I can be totally honest with. And her with me --- she has a fantasy, why not? I'd probably like trying a modest slap to the balls, followed by a modest slap to her clit. And very gradually testing who can take more so to speak. With the right person, I'm sure the two of us would be incredibly turned on. Too bad more women aren't into just a bit of pain. It's almost like good hot sauce (assuming you like hot sauce) --- it just makes everything that much more interesting and better.

We'll see...

[cracker]

Two quick responses but both from what appeared to be professionals. (None after, it may have been removed for some reason.) I let it known that I wanted a strict amateur and they disappeared.

My present girl friend is not into bb but willing to squeeze them hard while jerking me off. And I turn her on in the usual ways. So far, she seems to find it a bit strange but it doesn't bother her too much. She's easygoing and as long as I give her alot of attention I think she'll keep doing it. Not the best solution but not too bad either. (When she squeezes I can't take too long to come or the pain is almost too much, but it isn't so hard that my balls are sore after --- can't ask more than that.)

[balzbob]

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