A New Question For All Members (From Sara)

I created a separate profile here.
(My question is in the post below this one.)

So now, I'm not just SadisticSara (the unappreciated bitchy strict moderator and administrator) but also just Sara (the happy ballbuster) :D

I plan to try this out for a month at least, and see how it goes.
So far, it's just an additional profile -- not a switchover. I'll be using both profiles, at least for a while.

I'll keep you guys informed and updated about the reasons and such stuff "later". After I get a few personal matters sorted out.
In the meantime, I'll still be using both profiles. ;)

Hey, it's nice to be back as a member too -- just like the rest of you here! :D
See you around a bit later.

- Sara :)

Thanks to all those who have posted words of encouragement and support for me as moderator (in other threads). It's nice to know that my efforts are appreciated by some members.

I'm not quitting as moderator.
Not yet, at least.
I just need a bit of 'time out' to rest and evaluate my position.
I created my new profile to separate my future posts as moderator from my posts as member.

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Sharon and I recently received complaints from 2 members who I recently banned. I banned them after I received what I considered very valid "bad post" reports about their first posts. They're calling me "rude" (and other things) for having banned them. :confused: I feel my actions were justified, but my opinion is biased. But that's not exactly the question that I'm asking.

This is my question for all members:
Would you like me to continue as Moderator of this "Ballbusting World" Forum or not? And why?

All members except those 2 members (who I'd rather not name) who signed up before today (June 05, 2005) are encouraged to post their opinions.

I will not delete any other posts answering this new question, nor will I hold a grudge or any negative feelings towards any member, no matter what you say about me or what I've been doing so far as moderator.
(Sharon will no doubt be checking this!) ;)
I'd like your honest opinions please.

If you feel that I should step aside and let someone else be Moderator, then please say so.
Don't worry about hurting my feelings, but think about what's best for the Forum.

I could continue as a regular member using my newly-created profile (in the above post) if I'm doing more harm than good here.

Please answer below with your honest opinions.
The more opinions -- the better.

- Sara :)

Yes, I would like you to continue - because you are doing a great job. Having had more than 20 of my posts ‘removed’ from the forum*, I might have more case than many for complaint. However, this place needs rules and somebody like u to enforce them. This board is WAY better than others and is the only one I’ve ever bothered to join. This, in large part, is a result of your efforts.
I salute you, :ibow4u:
Inq

(*some for being 'political', some for being off-thread, some for being mischievous, some for mentioning daleks :) and many others for reasons unknown to me)

I completely support you in your role as Moderator and feel you are doing an excellent job. I know (because I have done it before) that it is largely thankless and unrewarding and quite time consuming as well. It is very normal to have people question the decisions you make - even the decisions that seem obvious- when you are in an authoritative position and they are shielded by the anonymity of the ether. At that point it's OK to re-evaluate your own attitude and motivations, but not shy away from something that you enjoy and do well because of a couple of naysayers. And if you have not learned this yet in life, you need to soon enough-

Not everyone is going to like you, even if you are perfect. That's just how it is. It has nothing to do with you, but with them! Get past that and to what you need to do.

Regarding the specifics of banning new members who can't be bothered to read and follow the most basic of rules- some would say that deleting their posts would be enough. To that I disagree. "Banning" their name causes them absolutely no harm but makes them think about what they did and why people don't like it, while they think of a new name to use. Simply deleting their post does nothing. It was a useless post to begin with and they won't miss it any more than anyone else.
I'm behind you a thousand percent!

I support you wholeheartedly. If it weren't for buffer created by your work here on the board, I fear we'd slide into the same quagmires that have consumed almost every other board I've been on.

The level of respect, content, and downright sense of fun on this board is unparalleled, and very hard to come by. And I credit all of it to an excellent moderator who's not afraid to put her foot down and keep us all moving in the right direction.

You do great work for us here. Don't let the whining of interlopers who have already demonstrated an unwillingness to follow the rules get you down, those of us who are actually on the board, participating, and following the rules support you.

No question, you're doing an excellent job Sara. I think you are probably the finest moderator I know - the fact that this thread even exists speaks volumes about your dedication and honesty. I support you wholeheartedly.

BTW, on the topic of banned people. I've worked in various aspects of customer support for over 10 years. It truly is a thankless job dealing with people who try to slide by with the least amount of effort. They certainly can and do wear you down to the point where you start questioning yourself (as this thread seems to indicate to me). Let the replies in this thread bear witness to the fact that the *real* users of this forum do indeed support you, and that it's only those that don't wish to put in any effort, the noisome masses, that protest when confronted with their own inadequacies.

TESTIFY!
J

:)

Tamakeri said it as well as it can be said.

As well as the fact that without good moderation this board would be chock full of useless posts and/ or spam -- so if anything, it's better to be a-little-too-tough than a-little-too-easy.

And I need to say thanks -- you are doing a great job at something that not many people want or would want to do, especially considering the time that it takes to moderate a public board. I also agree with jigab00, you're doing the best job that I've seen in my time on the web -- at a thankless job at that.

Stick with it, and thank you.

Cheezit

Hi Sara,

I think the real question is , do you want to carry on doing it ?

Its a time consuming job, its a difficult job and often pretty thankless too. You have to make decisions and guess what? you are always going to upset someone no matter what you do.

Personally I think you do a great job, you try your best to be fair, objective and logical with all your decisions, and to be honest, I wonder how you can be bothered to devote all the time you do, unless you are getting pretty well paid.

So my opinion is; you have all the right skills for the job, as you have proven, so the only question left is, do you want to keep on doing it ?

Best of luck

Tommy

I think you're doing a great job at keeping this site orderly. The time you take to do this really shows, and this site would be at a great loss if you left.

This is by far the best BB board on the net and you are the prime reason it is so.

Yes you're a great moderator for this site and in all honesty I wouldn't have joined if you weren't on it. But it's up to you if you want to stay, from what you've told me before for all the people who love and appreciate your work there are more who are rude and crappy to you. I hope you stay moderator but I'm not going to force you to stay if you don't want to but I'll miss you (and I'm sure everyone else will too) and I really hope you'll stay on the forum as a regular user :D so we still get to see ya around if you decide to move on :( . And just for reference whenever you've talked to me you've been very polite and kind so don't let people in a bad mood get you down.

No Question !!you Are The Best !!!!!

Of course we support you. You are not being critical or insulting to the other posters. You seem to only pass judgement on those that try to pass judgement or posts. And that is what a moderator does, isn't it? Keep up the good work.

TheDA

I think you already know how I feel :) You do a great and very thankless job here. You HAVE banned people that I wouldnt have, and have let people stay that I would have banned, but thats why YOU'RE the moderator and not me :p

I would not have stayed here as long as I have if you were not in charge, and I doubt very much if I will stay if you choose to resign. Too many fetish boards are just places where people fight and insult each other, hell, SOME dont talk about the fetish involved for weeks on end as people are too busy trading insults. YOU stop this from happening and I am forever grateful that you do. I am not sure any other moderator would as tough on bad posters while bending over backwards to help the new and regular poters to keep this a happy and fun place to escape too :) And, speaking of bending over backwards ......... oops, sorry, wrong thread :o

I've spent time on maybe a dozen boards over the last decade. This is the best run, and most enjoyable. You have been doing a great job, and I hope you stay with it.