I've deleted my porn collection and taken all my ballbusting DVDs to the charity shop

I've decided to stop being so dependent on porn.

This isn't because I think porn is "evil" or that I'm ashamed of myself for enjoying it.

It's simply because, although I respect my own privacy, I don't like having big secrets that could potentially stop me from becoming close to someone and also I don't think that it's good for me psychologically to be obsessing over degrading images.

I'm not sure what I'm going to do next time I'm horny though.

There's a good chance I might just download another gig or so of videos then spend 100 quid on DVDs.

I'm not sure what's going to happen really.

Donating them gives you the chance to get them back, it seems you still want them to me, otherwise they would have been broken and thrown in the trash.

Congratulations, you just lost a lot of money (not only the actual value of the porn collection, but also the time spendt acquiring it).
The fact that you don't know what you will do next time you have an urge seems to indicate you are an impulse driven person.
Solutions exist for people who don't believe in being honest about their fantasies with their partners, you can upload your collection in the cloud, or even use a dedicated porn computer, if you can afford it.
A lot of people fall for the peer pressure of qualifying porn as degrading to women. Guess what ? It is nothing more than puritan brainwash.
It is up to the user/customer to choose the kind of porn that is in line with both his/her fantasies and his/her moral values.
You want porn that is not degrading to women ? Try to subscribe to your favourite models social medias, listen to what they say about their jobs (some girls like Siri offer a fantastic look inside the industry).
Whatever the model or actress will promote, generally her own website, will be more respectful and generous to her, han the exploitative crap you will find on big porn networks.
If you want to change how porn treats women, start to think about the girls as being artists in charge of their own businness, that try to make a decent living, rather than helpess sexual objects.
If you are honest and open about this, surely you will find the right woman to accept this aspect of your sexuality.

The thing is I don't like lying or keeping secrets full stop.

The porn I watched and was trapped by was degrading to MEN because it was men getting kicked in the nuts, and it was degrading to ME because I was fantasising about being that man who was getting their balls destroyed.

That must have raised a few eyebrows in the charity shop! I wonder if they will put them in the window.

They were all mainstream movies with ballbusting scenes in them...one of them was a Power Rangers movie.

You see, when I have an intimate partner, I'm not going to keep anything secret from her about having had a ballbusting obsession in the past but I'm not going to encourage it in our relationship either.

And I'm definitely not going to complicate our sexual relationship by keeping stashes of pornography.

I'm going to show her that I'm only interested in her.

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Originally Posted by eric B

You see, when I have an intimate partner, I'm not going to keep anything secret from her about having had a ballbusting obsession in the past but I'm not going to encourage it in our relationship either.

And I'm definitely not going to complicate our sexual relationship by keeping stashes of pornography.

I'm going to show her that I'm only interested in her.

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Look man... I don't get it. Why do you think ballbusting is bad ?? I mean, i think it is the best thing that happend to me, i love the feeling it gives me and i love the feeling it gives my female partner, we both like it, are both into it... so why do you think it is something you should be ashamed of... ??? I assure you it is not and instead of hiding this to your girfriend or your sexual partners, you should involve them in it, i'm not telling you what to do here, but i think you should tell your girfriend to bust you, maybe she will like it, and if she dosen't then you just drop the subject like " ok, you're not into that... ok, we can try something else, it's just a fantasy i wanted to try out, no biggie... " :) and then act like nothing happend and if you don't want to go forward and tell her, then try a playfull way of doing that when you are in bed with her, when you are in the heat of the moment, just say " squeeze my balls" or something, i think the best way to do that is when you are doing it from the back ( not trying to be offensive here, just saying ) so i think instead oh hidding your porn/obssession/desire whatever, you should embrace it, tell your girfriend about it, be honest, because there's really nothing to loose, because if your girfriend really cares for you then she will understand it, even if she's not into it... Anyways... That's just the way i see things. Best of luck to you

I agree with v15, Best of Luck to you, eric B. But honestly, I've never been with a girl that isn't into ball busting! Seriously. Just about every woman I've been with (I'm in my 40's) has wanted to hurt my balls one way or another. The younger women I date in their 20's reveal their desire to hurt the boys much more quickly (like on the 1st date) than the women in their late 30's and into the 40's.

It happens to me about 95% of the time. I don't intentionally go after women I know are into it, but just the slightest and most subtle and very natural verbal encouragement or actions on my part turns the most feminine, shy, demure, introverted, and beautiful young women into the true ball busters they are - and more often than not, they can't get enough of it (one woman actually told me she had an instant addiction to hurting my balls).

I actually think ALL Females are into busting guy's balls, even if they don't know it yet. I just help them discover their kink ... to satisfy mine. And everybody wins!

Good call. If you feel that porn isn't something that brings you joy and you want to quit, go for it. I've taken long breaks form it occasionally and find that it's well worth the effort. In a worst case scenario, you come back a month or two from now and there will be a bunch of new videos to watch. Ha. In a best case scenario you find you don't need it pick up some more productive hobbies. Either way there really isn't any harm in trying.

There have been numerous studies that link heavy porn usage and negative emotional states, like depression. If you're serious about quitting, install some sort of filter on your computer that's password protected. Keep the password in your desk at work or in your car or something. Far enough away to make it inconvenient to get access to.

Short article in a series of articles about quitting porn, many more available if you google it.
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/1...-to-quit-porn/

I've quit from time to time but like a smoker that quits several times before stopping fully, I relapse. At some point I think, I'm getting too old to be watching this shit. Don't I have better things to do with my time? All things in moderation I suppose.

When you do get a GF, you will most likely have to get her into ballbusting. I think you're stuck with the kink, you may not be fully satisfied with regular sex. I agree with V15 that the squeeze my balls route is the best, then work up to higher things gradually if you need to. Like he said, good luck.

...there's a charity that accepts fetish porn as donations?