Originally Posted by
Balloney
My wife doesn't know 'ball busting' either. But I'll ask her to 'play with my balls' when giving me a hand job. She's not into empowerment from it. It's not entertainment for her. She does it to please me. I have played a game with her a little. She'll slap 10 or a random number of times and see if she can get me to close my legs on a hard slap. But it's not like she's all into it. For me, ball play is something I want when I am super horny. Intercourse is more intimate, bonding, etc. Sometimes I'm horny and I want her body. Sometimes I'm horny and I want a lot of sensation. Those are the times for ball play.
I'll give her instructions, too, so it's not her pushing my limits. Not usually. I'll ask her to squeeze a while or spank the balls. One poster said that repeated blows increase pain a lot. For me it is not that way. But maybe she's not hitting them as hard as this guy is saying. She spanks them, not hard enough to really sting if it were on my butt, probably. I ask her to use her palm. Fingers are stingy on scrotal skin, and that's not the feeling I'm going for. After a while of ball squeezing and spanking, sometimes I'll get into a state where it feels really good, a nice plateau state that I might be able to get to from edging. I'll also ask my wife to play with my balls during a hand job if I'm getting too close to the edge from normal stroking and want to stretch out the experience or get to a higher state of arousal before ejaculating.
For squeezing, she'll take a finger and thumb and wrap it between my testicles and body and pull them out. (I'll ask her to do this, to pull the balls out.) Then she'll squeeze. Usually, she doesn't squeeze that hard. Occasionally, she'll get me really hard, sometimes without really realizing it. This can push my limits a bit if I decide to take it and not let on how much it hurts.
We've never done kicks. I think she'd freak out if I asked, and I don't want kicks. I want well-controlled ball busting for pleasure. I don't mind a hard slap every once in a while that makes me close my legs. Usually, I don't get anything hard enough to make me feel like I want to throw up. I want something a bit less than that. I don't know if the ball busting I take is hard or not compared to other people. I'd guess it is less hard than kicks. For me, it's a sensation thing, not so much a fantasy of being dominated.
My wife was a little freaked out when I asked for ball spanking a few times when we first got married. I had sex daily or nightly with her or some kind of sexual release, so I wasn't horny enough usually to ask for ball busting and wasn't as much into it. I remember suggesting a leather strap early on. She freaked out and thought I had some kind of problem. I coaxed her back into the hand job. One of our issues is I like a hand job. She'll give them if she isn't wanting sex, but I'll go until her hands are tired. Maybe four or five years into our marriage, I left a wooden spoon on the bed (used to discipline or threaten our child.) I left it there intentionally so she might get the idea herself to use it for ball busting. I had a piece of rubber from a sex toy in our sex bag that had the lube in it. She got the idea to spank my balls with the spoon and save her hand. I said 'okay.' I didn't want to suggest it lest she freak out. But it was her ideas. I padded the spoon with the rubber. I do not want to try that again. I want the nice, naturally padded palm of her hand, not a spoon. That brought some weird pain to the surface of the balls, not the nice even ball pain-pleasure I was looking for.
My point is, that she gradually got used to some of the ball busting stuff so it isn't all that weird to her. Occasionally, she'll make a comment about something being wrong with me for liking to have my balls spanked.
After a hand job with some spanking and squeezing of the balls, when I'm super horny, I like her to finish me off with some post-ejaculatory stimulation. I've got some velcro straps attached to twine I hide away under the bed for my wrists. She still thinks that's a little weird. The first time, it freaked her out. I can attach one with one hand or unattach it if I want to. It's hard to do during post-ejaculatory head torture, though. The straps keep me from putting my hands in the way and blocking her strokes. Recently, I've asked her to grip my testicles firmly, not a pain-inducing squeeze, but just short of it, stroke the frenelum up to corono, the 'neck' of the penis, and when I ask her to stop, to go 100 strokes or a minute really letting my head have it.
The thing is, I'll want her to stop and grunt and say a little to indicate that. I've already told her to just let me have it even if I object. She's not a sadist or into some sort of power play, and doesn't really understand the game. So she'll ask if me asking to quit is part of the 'drama', as if I want role play rather than 'torture' (which I want beforehand, but not at the moments after ejaculation.)
As far as wives go, I think using willingness to ball-bust as a criteria is probably a bad idea. There might be a sweet caring wife who enjoys a bit of rough play with you in the bedroom and laughs at your predicament in fun, but is very sweet and caring otherwise. But I'd rather my wife not be sadistic or uncaring and be a bit more reserved in the bedroom, doing stuff to please me, than to have a sadistic domineering streak that carries on out of the bedroom into daily life. Also, if you find some girl you can take home and have sex with who will instantly be willing to destroy your balls. I've read that promiscuity corresponds with higher divorce rates, the more guys she sleeps with before marriage, the more likely to divorce up to some level. Virgin women have lower divorce rates later in life than women who have slept with even one other man before their husband before they get married.
My suggestion is to get out of the porn. One of those serial killers, Ted Bundy, I think, watched porn and got excited by it. Maybe it was some kind of addiction. Eventually, he wanted to try some of it out, until he needed more and more of a thrill. Eventually, he started hurting and killing the girls he slept with. Maybe you are watching more and more porn about guys getting their junk hurt, wanting to try it and getting more and more severe. I don't see a problem with a bit of rough fun play if it isn't too extreme. But needles in your balls? I'm guessing neither of you are a doctor or a nurse, right? You shouldn't be messing with that stuff. From a pleasure-seeking perspective, if you remove one of those balls or destroy it, there goes one of your sources of sexual pleasure for the rest of your life. Do you really want to feel what a testicle rupture feels like? My guess is that it doesn't feel sexy at all. You probably won't enjoy it, in spite of fantasizing about it. Then no more testicle for your wife to play with, and those fun times are over for you.