Allow me to preface by sayingI know this is a bit ironic of me to be on a fetish website calling another (related) fetish absurd.
I don't understand findom from the slave perspective at all. Willingly giving up your hard earned money for no obvious reward or result. I can understand if some "dommes" request partial or even full payment for a session up front, your Choice. But a lot of these so-called dommes on social media requesting 50-100 upfront BEFORE even initiating contact via message. Then a 300+ dollar fee for what I imagine can't even be a 30 Minute session. (Allow me to add that dome of these dommes aren't much to look at) and once you initiate anything you are unofficially part of her corral and expected to make regular and irregular contributions.
Brothers shed some light on this because it makes no sense whatsoever to me. I enjoy the thought and the action of a good ballbusting as much as any of you for as log as I can remember but intentional self inflicted financial misery is a concept I can't grasp.