Sadistic Sara said:

I really can't figure out why a guy would like to be in such a vulnerable, helpless situation, but it seems to really excite some guys.
Maybe some of you could tell me why you like this?
The feeling of powerlessness and being controlled releives a lot of stress. It's fairly common among both men and women, although women typically act it out (if they do it safely) by going to a "kidnap" service (ask for light torchure and no sex unless you want to have the REAL experience of being kidnapped and raped -- in which case, don't pay the kidnap service, just hang out in aa dark alley and wait).

But I digress; the question was just about female domination, right? As in what this board is all about? I think I only ever was threatened with ********** once, and it was very exciting because I was SURE she wouldn't do it... and then I was 99% sure... and then I was about 95% sure... and then I started pleading and begging and whimpering (etc.) and I would have promised anything and everything.

It was such a huge relief when she released them that I probably would have married her.

So: WHY do I enjoy it? It gives me the chance to try to confront one of my biggest fears (well, okay, my BIGGEST fear; death would be, like, maybe 3rd): maybe I'll come out okay, maybe not.Facing a fear like that, stepping into the danger, and facing it is a total rush when you come out un-permanently-busted/sliced off. It's wonderful to give a lover, friend, playmate, whatever THAT much trust -- most women really enjoy being trusted that much and respect and enjoy that someone will trust her that much. So it's an emotional high, too -- it allows an incredible emotional intimacy, not just a sexual one.

How's that for a start?