Anyone here open about their bb fetish?

[eric]

Is anyone here open about liking their balls getting busted. If my family or social circle ever found out about my fetish I'd have to move to another country . Anyone here got freinds who know (and don't keep it secret).

[delta322222]

Why must we be open about our fetishes? Why tell everybody? Most people do not say anything about their sexlife. I think, that there are a lot of people with a fetish. I hope, that they can talk about it with their partners. I know there are a lot, who think they can't.

[Magnum]

I have told many gals but only one guy which is one of my best freinds. I wouldn't tell any other guys I know, they wouldn't understand.

[SadisticSara]

Is anyone here open about liking their balls getting busted. If my family or social circle ever found out about my fetish I'd have to move to another country . Anyone here got freinds who know (and don't keep it secret).

No way!

It's part of my personal life that I only share with my intimate partners.
And here on the forum, of course, where I assume I'm anonymous (for all practical purposes).

I don't tell relatives, friends or acquaintances about how I'm into ballbusting. But I don't tell them anything about what I do in bed with my partner. That's private!

In most cultures and societies it's not considered "correct" or "polite" to talk about exactly what one does in bed sexually with one's partner, especially if it's something that isn't 'standard'. Fetishes or "deviant behaviour" aren't 'acceptable' topics of discussion, unless one is talking about a third party. Like about a politician, for example! And even then, everyone is supposed to act shocked and horrified and pretend that they don't have their own secret sexual fantasies or practices.

Honesty is not the best policy when it comes to fetishes. Especially if one has a job or career or ever hopes to have one.
Also, those who know me (in real life) would probably think that I'm really weird. I mean, even weirder than they already think I am!

On my resumé, for example: Under "Other Interests", I really can't imagine writing:
"I'm the moderator and administrator of an online sex fetish forum on ballbusting because of my level of experience and first-hand knowledge. I'm adequately articulate and I like to improve my writing skills in English by telling everyone how much I enjoy squeezing, punching and otherwise causing testicular pain to my current sexual partner. I also relish educating others on the joys of inflicting and receiving unusual pain to the testicles, in imaginative and sometimes unusual ways. I do this to further improve my already above average communicative skills."


So, no. In real life I'm not open about my interest in ballbusting.

- Sara

[eric]

You write English better than most English people.

[evilgrl]

Is anyone here open about liking their balls getting busted. If my family or social circle ever found out about my fetish I'd have to move to another country . Anyone here got freinds who know (and don't keep it secret).

I would never tell my relatives or my male friends. Some of my female freinds know but that's about it. Mostly just the ones that are close to me. I try not to make a habit out of sharing my personal sex life. So you guys are my only outlet. Hell my bf has been with me for over a year and I just got the nerve to talk to him about it a few days ago. I might be Evilgrl but I can also be chicken_grl.


evlgrl

[eric]

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Also, those who know me (in real life) would probably think that I'm really weird. I mean, even weirder than they already think I am!

[eric]

Sara

Aren't you worried that a freind of a freind might come across this forum while doing research for a study/article, and see your picture? Don't want to cause alarm or anything, it's just something that would worry me if I put my picture on the forum.

[SadisticSara]

You write English better than most English people.

Thanks. My Dad (Canadian) used to teach English in Mexico, as just one of his multiple simultaneous jobs. Had his own private language school and for a while was head of the English department at a government university.
I sometimes help him with translation work.
He has always only spoken to me in English since the day I was born, so I had a good teacher! (My Mom was Mexican and only spoke to me in Spanish.)

Aren't you worried that a freind of a freind might come across this forum while doing research for a study/article, and see your picture? Don't want to cause alarm or anything, it's just something that would worry me if I put my picture on the forum.

Maybe I should be more worried but I'm not. I think that if they find this forum, they're probably into ballbusting too, or at least open-minded and curious about it. It would give us something more to talk about. Besides, having such a fetish isn't illegal, and shouldn't affect my future career. Here in Canada people are relatively open-minded about such things.

(But my interest in ballbusting still isn't something that I'd want widely known where I live, work and study.)

- Sara

[Tamakeri]

Maybe I should be more worried but I'm not. I think that if they find this forum, they're probably into ballbusting too, or at least open-minded and curious about it. It would give us something more to talk about. Besides, having such a fetish isn't illegal, and shouldn't affect my future career. Here in Canada people are relatively open-minded about such things.

Our society doesn't look down on women ball-busters, it actually raises them on a pedestal. Men who get their balls busted, however, are generally regarded as either scum because they deserved it or pervs because they liked it. Both are bad for your career and the respect you get from others. As a beautiful woman, you should have nothing to fear, but as a middle aged man with a wife and family and a career in corporate America, I fear I do. I agree that nobody is going to "stumble" across this ballbusting site or any other like it and recognize me without being interested themselves in the fetish. But if she's female, she could certainly ruin my life anyway.

-Tamakei (looking over my shoulder)

[Trouble]

I never say a word about it. Instead, I wear a t-shirt that says, in great big letters, "I LIKE TO GET KICKED IN THE NUTS BY WOMEN LIKE EVILGRL!" On the back of the t-shirt, it says, in very small letters, that masochism is less and less considered a "mental disorder" by the psychiatric profession, that Evilgrl would kick me if she weren't chicken_grl in her alter ego, and it lists the number for 911 in case anything goes wrong.

People ignore it because my other t-shirt advertises lakefront property on Mars.

Camouflage, you understand. It's the art of misdirection.

[Magnum]

I have said this to many women, those I know and those I don't, when they ask something like "how are you?" I many times reply, "a swift kick in the balls and I probably would feel better". Many times a gal might be having a bad day and when I ask "whats wrong", many times they refer to someone who has ruined their day. Then I might say, "wouldn't you like to give them a hard kick right in the balls?" The vast majority of the time they laugh and agree. It's amazing. I'm telling you, I do this constantly and it gives me a small thrill. One other thing I do when the opportunity arrises I will say to a woman "maybe you should take up martial arts or self defense and learn to protect yourself". Many say I already know how or just agree but it almost always gives me an opening to say "I'll be your practice dummy" and sometimes I say "you can even kick me in the balls but please don't hit me in the face". Usually I get the same laugh as a reaction but one of these days a gal will take me up on it.

[me_no_wimp]

Maybe people can be more open about these things in the USA and talk openly about it.

My wife knows, of course, as she is the one who does the kicking. She doesn't know I post on sites about it. I think a number of people know I have a bit of a shoe fetish, but they don't know it goes so far as wanting to be kicked with them.

[Trouble]

On talking about sex:

No, one doesn;t say (at ;east not around here), "I'm homosexual and I like [put description of sexual activity here]." or "I'm straight and I just love to [put description of hetereosexual thang here]."

There are two very good reasons for this:

1. Sex is not beautiful; it's GROSS! Well, let me amend that a bit: sex, done correctly, is not beautiful, it's incredibly gross and sometimes quite violent. Sure, there might be people out there who have beautiful, non-gros, non-violent sex, but I pity them for all that they are missing. Abtwat, it is always impolite to discuss ross subjects.

2. Sex is best when it is implied and subtle and all that. For example, when my friend K says or does something which I really appreciate, I don't say, "When you do something for me that I really appreciate, it makes me want to throw you down and pound the mazola out of your cervix,: If I want to be flirtacous, I might say, "A woman who does a favour like that deserves a reward." or something. You know, you imply something, you hint at the edges, that kind of thing. When the two of you are alone and drunk later, THEN you slam the willies out of her.

That's kind of what Magnum is saying: a person doesn't, in a conversation with friends and/or family, say, "I've taken up ballbusting. Well, Im a bustee, of course, meaning that busters kick me in the knackers. Jolly good fun after you get over the pain." I've been around friends and had some very salacious talk out in public, of all places, but nothing specific was really stated. No, "I prefer to have the guy in [such and such] position, s that I can hold his nards while I'm heaving my body up against his hairy tummy." You know, I enjoy -->wondering<-- about some of my female friends, but if they came out and said it, I'd be like, "Yuck!" With one of my friends who WAS very open and inclusive about her sex life, I found myself thinking, "Wait... AND Chuck? Doesn't that make... let's see... there was Bob and then Joel... and then that guy she met at the pub... and her roommate... possibly her other roommate, too, judging by what he said... Thomas... David... that ugly greasemonkey from the Post Office... that'd be, what? 23 guys? Last month? That's worse than ME! That's worse than Greg, even!!! Eeeeeeewwwwww!!!!"

I had to start ignoring what she said. To illustrate, this is my standard for a woman that I am willing to date:

She has to still be breathing.

This is Greg's:

The body has to be be warm. At the time, anyway.

(Names changed to protect the guilty.)

[jonlondon]

yes, keep it personal, share with those u trust.