I have an idea for a ball-spanking game for husbands and wives to play. Lots of trust is needed. If she is a little open to ball play, but just does not really bust your balls thoroughly enough. Slaps and squeezes by hand can be very controlled, targeted, and can extend pleasurable ball pain for a long time. Kicks can damage other areas, might be more likely to cause long-term damage, and can easily miss the target area.

The following game can potentially be quite pleasureful (and painful) for a man. If your wife is not playing intensely and log enough with your testicles, this could bring out a competitive side of her that could cause her to be a lot more intense. You may enjoy this, but carefully consider what you are getting yourself into before you give her this to read. If she does read it, you may be signing up for something more intense and serious than you had in mind. Being tied up my intensify the experience, especially at the end. There is a rule that allows forfeiting the game, but this rule may not be very effective if you are tied up, depending on your partner.

Materials:
- A 30 second hour glass. (Can substitute stop watch of stop watch app)
- Velcro straps for thighs
- Velcro straps for wrists
- Carabiners or key rings
- Small bells
- Lube
- Eager testicles
- Eager wife with durable, reasonably strong hands (also possibly mouth, vagina).
- Beads (chips, game pieces, etc.)
- Two cups, labeled with both your names.
- Optional-- testicle separator.

More about materials. I bought little hour glasses online. You could sub out 1 minute or whatever time you can find. Read the game rules and see what makes sense for you. You can buy a roll of the two materials of Velcro straps with glue on the back of them. Glue them together with a ring or carabiner in the middle. You have to have two straps long enough to wrap securely around the thigh just above the knee. Attach bells to each thigh. Optional: create straps for wrists. Make sure carabiners on thighs are on outer thighs. She can strap your wrists to your thighs to prevent blocking if you want a scary version of the game and if trust is high.

I got the bells at the Dollar Tree. One of them says 'Kiss Me' on it.

Rounds
The game consists of three types of rounds with the sequence continuing until the game is over. Each round lasts the duration of the hour glass, which in this case is 20 seconds.
1. Ball spanking
2. Ball squeezing
3. Hand/oral stimulation of the penis.

If the man is going hold the hourglass, the wife should notify him to wait to turn the hourglass if she plans to put a stretcher or ball separator on him for the next round.

Setting Maximum Strength
Some sexual activity before the game may help prevent having to reset maximum strength later. Before the game, the couple negotiate the maximum strength for various hits and squeezes used throughout the game. She can try various types of ball squeezes until he says 'mercy' to signify the maximum squeeze or each type. You can either agree on a maximum just below 'mercy' or agree that 'mercy' may be used for one hit or one second of squeeze per round. Techniques should be discussed also. For example, hand clap slaps should be tried out and negotiated. If she plans to isolate testicles using a ball separator and squeeze individual testicles between fingers, this can be discussed.

A limited type of squeezes and slaps may be agreed upon. Naturally, there will be some slight variations of this since exact precision during a ball-spanking and squeezing is not possible. A woman may be given fairly free reign to slap or squeeze, or the couple may exclude some more intense forms of stimulation like testicle finger squeezes or holding testicles in one hand while they are spanked with the other-- depending on how sensitive the man is and what his limits are. During this pre-game warm-up the woman should learn to isolate testicles between thumb and forefinger. If this is considered illegal for a squeeze, a firm hold may be used elsewhere in the game, so she should practice it before the game starts. If she is going to use this as a squeeze, it is less tiring for a woman if she uses her first knuckle rather than the pads of her finger. She could also exercise care because this enables much stronger squeezes. A ball separator may be useful to enable this squeeze. A stretchy penis ring with a wide cut a rubber band in the middle might work for a home-made separator. Make sure not to injure his skin.

Types of slaps need to be agreed upon. Palm slaps work well. Scrotal skin stinging type slaps are generally undesirable. Lube may help prevent this issue.

If ball separators or penis rings will be used to isolate testicles, squeezes and slaps with these devices can be tried out. She may also isolate testicles using one hand and hit with the other and negotiate out maximum strength strikes. Fingernail squeezes pose an unnecessary health risk, both to the testicle and to the finger.

She is not required to demonstrate one-ball only squeezes. and slaps. These can feel quite different and be a bit off-putting for a man, and get a different reaction. But the woman may save these advantage during the game and only negotiate out maximum pressure, angle, etc. during this maximum-strength-setting pre-game warm-up.

A man is encouraged to be honest and forthright about his limits, and not ask for lighter hits and squeezes to win the game, on an honor system. The woman may try squeezes several times while reminding him about the honor system during the pre-game warm up to set the proper strength level.

Points
The ball-bustee, if his wrists are not bound, holds a bag of beads, 50 or 100 or 200, for example. For each round, 1, 2, or 2, if the man is able to endure without ringing the bells on his thighs, he wins a point. If he blocks with his hands she gets a point. When one wins a point, the beads goes in his or her cup. If he rings the bell, she gets a point. (The idea is not to flinch.) The game is not finished until all beads are in a cup. The man may forfeit. (The option to quit may be hypothetical only if he is tied up for the game.) If he ejaculates during the game, the game continues until all the beads are used up, making it more difficult for him to win the game. Completing the game may be a form of punishment for ejaculating prematurely. A woman can also take it easy on the penis during the hand/oral round so as to prevent ejaculation. Rules can also be adjusted to allow for extra stimulation of the penis, post-ejaculation, if he ejaculates early, before continuing with testicle squeezing and slapping.

Wimpy Versions versus Tougher Versions
Rules can be adjusted so that if he ejaculates, she automatically wins. Since a man can forfeit, this version is not very necessary, not if she enjoys the game.

A tougher version requires that a round be finished even after the bell rings and a man looses a point. A wimpier version would require that the round stop when the ball rings. If this is not negotiated during the pre-game portion, then the wife may alternate between the two, choosing whichever approach is most advantageous to earning a point or insist on the tougher version if she prefers.

Negotiating Illegal Excessive Force
If the man feels the woman squeezed or slapped harder than the maximum force, he may contest a round and the couple may discuss. Game etiquette requires that the woman hold the man's testicles during this negotiation. If she is able, she may consider a balls-between finger hold during the negotiation, whether or not this was allowed as a type of squeeze allowed during the pregame warm up. The hold should just be firm, not a painful squeeze. The purpose of the hold is to facilitate a psychological mindset that speeds the negotiation forward. It is a very intimate hold that also encourages honesty and forthrightness on his part, and is an assurance to her of his honesty and forthrightness.

A ball separator may be useful in getting the appropriate grip of each testicle between fingers, so it may be necessary to put a separator on before the discussion. If the couple determine a hit or squeeze was too hard, the bead may be returned and they can do a 'do-over' round for the point/bead in question.

Renegotiating Maximum Hits and Squeezes
If a man warms up to harder hits and squeezes, maximum hits and squeezes may be renegotiated. The woman has a right to ask for this at any point during the game if the man seems unresponsive and has gone for more than two rounds without ringing a bell. She should remind him of his responsibility to be honest while holding out a 'maximum' squeeze for however long it takes to explain his obligation to honesty in this regard. A man may call for a renegotiation of maximum hits to increase the strength of hits if the game as it becomes boring. If he wishes to renegotiate for less than the pre-agreed upon maximum, he forfeits the game, though the wife has the option to bring up this renegotiation.

Renegotiation is a means to ensure that balls are properly and thoroughly 'busted' from the game and that the game is not boring for either party.

Female Strategic Approaches
A woman can use psychological and physical factors to win points in the game. Feigning a death blow with a double fist that ends in a maximum allowed strike might cause some bells to ring. If she can feign a strike with one hand while hitting with another, that may confuse a man. Also, switching from two-ball to one ball strikes or squeezes might shock a man into flinching. Mixing up kinds of blows-- for example going from slaps to finger flicks on sensitive parts of the testicles, might cause a man to flinch. If maximum hits and squeezes are set well, the game may be challenging for a man unless he warms up later.

A woman can also cheat, of course, hitting harder, and either hoping a man does not call her on it, or else not giving in during the negotiation. Squeezing testicles beyond the maximum limit during the negotiation of illegally strong hits or squeezes is another method of cheating. Giving a squeeze beyond a firm hold during rules violation negotiation is also considered cheating-- but she must grip his testicles between thumb and finger to discuss this rules violation also.

There is also the 'evil' water-melon seed testicle attack. This is where a woman squeezes balls and causes them to slip out of her squeeze, with her squeeze closing on the ball as it slips out. And 'evil' grinding attack can also be used, where the ball is squeezed, but she also grinds against them with a thumb or finger. Not demonstrating this during the pre-game portion might be considered cheating, but it is a fuzzy area of the game. These can be jarring, painful, and overwhelming. To prevent point disputes, a woman might want to save these for if the is losing, especially toward the end of the first game. A woman who does this may find that the topic comes up the next time they play the game and set maximum strength rules.

A skilled hand or mouth bringing him to ejaculation may also help her win the game. Whatever seconds are left of post ejaculatory sensitivity during her 20 seconds might cause him to ring a bell. If her man is less able to endure ball spanking or squeezing after ejaculation, he may ring bells or forfeit and she can win. A woman may want her man to be erect at the end of the game, and this can be important for either male or female for the stakes of the game.

A wife has the right to play with her husband's penis for as long as she wants if he ejaculates during this session, even if he loses a point. He has to forfeit to make her stop. Ejaculation gives her to right to use approximately 20 seconds of squeezes and or slaps immediately after, up to maximum-agreed-upon strength, in addition to penis stimulation. This rule, of course, can be changed if agreed upon, but only in versions of the game where the husband is not tied up. A wife has the right to substitute intercourse for hand or mouth.

Male Strategic Approaches
Sorry dude, there is not much you can do in this game besides endure and stay still. You can hold out a bit in the pre-game setting of maximum squeezes and slaps, but that kind of defeats the purpose of playing the game.

If He Wins
If he wins, he has earned an ejaculation. A wife may just want to use his erection for intercourse. Where an ejaculation during the game counts as his prize, or if a subsequent ejaculation (whether he is eager for it or not) after the game is the prize should be negotiated out during the game or agreed to be the wife's decision.

A man may need to be tied up to do the following properly. A ruined orgasm is an option. If he experiences post-ejaculatory sensitivity, a ruined orgasm can actually make post-orgasm stroking more erotic and enjoyable. A full, head-squeezed orgasm followed by continued stroking can be very intense. A wife may stroke, suck, etc. him to orgasm.

Some couples use ejaculate as lube, but male ejaculate can have a course, almost microgritty texture that irritates the skin. So pointing his penis towards his belly to get rid of the ejaculate, pointing his penis downward, or using a wetwipe to catch and wipe up the ejaculate, without missing a beat can help prevent chafing so his penis can be on beck and call for future use. Any hand job should use proper lube. There are advantages to lubing testicles during ball spankings as well.

A wife can also do post-orgasm stimulation with intercourse by tightening her Kegel muscles as hard as she can and in a WOT position laying on his body with her legs closed together, ankles crossed, and making very long strokes. Rotating like a washing machine may suffice if a man is extremely sensitive and she is tired. There may be some variations of WOT positions that stimulate the top of the penis head she can experiment with, but it is best to do that prior to a post-ejaculation stimulation session. His hands may be tied during intercourse to prevent him from stopping her motions by pushing her buttocks to prevent thrusting.

Post-ejaculatory head sensitivity can be extended by making a ring with forefinger and thumb and holding it tightly against the base of the penis to trap the erection-blood in the penis. Before ejaculation, a man can also fully 'flex' his penis to maximum size, and she can put a penis ring on, also. Both approaches can also be helpful. A woman using manual or oral should pay some attention to the head, which is generally the most overwhelming sensation during post-ejaculatory stimulation.

A woman may stroke a man through to a second orgasm, also, if he is able to have one. Of course, this can be followed by more post-orgasm stimulation. Some men can do a third. Or a man may just 'go flat' after a period of time.

An unerect penis can have hypersensitivity in it still. When some hypersensitivity has warn off, a man may be able to lay still and not react to trick his wife into thinking the hypersensitivity is all gone, so a wife may want to play with the penis head for a little while after he has stopped moving and after his penis has lost it's erection.

This should not be deemed as medical advice or as medically-healthy plan. Talk to a urologist if you have any health questions. At least one urologist has expressed the opinion, often circulated in discussions on this topic, that it takes quite a bit of force to rupture a testicle. Veins and other parts may be more tender, so handle with care.

What are your thoughts on this game?
Could you play this?
Would you play this?
Is it too complicated?
Men-- would you want your woman to read this?
Why or why not?
How could it be improved?