Hi Messalina,
I'm Try, not Zapan. Regarding your point about the differing portrayal of men and women in tv shows, I watch so little tv I don't know much about that. As for violence, well, I've made my point about how it's treated differently for the sexes, and I see you understand what I mean. My story is of a crime fighting heroine, who can fight like Steven Seagal, but the gang of crooks she's fighting are women. I wonder how people will react. You can see it here, 
https://www.wattpad.com/ . You have to join, it's free, then search authors for 'Homersdad', that's me, and you'll see a story called 'They call her Petal'. It's not complete, the site wants stories submitted in installments, I'll update it every few days. It's violent, but no fatalities. I also hope it's sexy and works as a story.
To sum up how I think 'action' tv and cinema works, women are there as eye candy, men as targets for violence.