I think there's even more to it than just
suppressed fantasies, and that's what makes it so hard.
Maybe it sounds strange first, but I think it's not wrong:
As the active part, to do it well, you have to know what it's like to be the passive part.
I would go so far to say: To be the stronger part, you have to
go through beeing the weaker part.
(At least everybody WAS the weaker befor he BECAME the stronger)
Both parts have theire own characteristics, you can have fun both ways but by different
means, both have advantages and disavantages but they differ and doing well (having more advantages then disadvantages) requires to behave different and it's
not an advantage to be the stronger part per se.
It's just yet another potential way to behave.
It requires to know
both sides to be the stronger part.
It
doesn't require to know both sides if you just stay beeing the weaker.
See the difference?
Active and passive is often "sold" as beeing two parts of the medal just like, and corresponding to, male and female.
But they aren't.
And that means, that even if you are the stronger one most of the time, ...not "even if" but "
all the more" you ARE the stonger one most of the time, you also have the NEED to be the weaker one once again, sometimes at least.
That is actually a platitude, so I think you can follow me so far.
Well, that's it altogether anyway, I think.
No, wait..., I wantetd to point out, why it is so hard to constantly live without that.
The words are Trust and Respect.
These two things, Trust and Respect, feelings, you can experience if you are the weaker part, and
only then.
You could argument now that it's much better to BE trusted and to BE respected.
But think about it then:
How can you be happy with a woman, if you cannot trust and respect her?
Given the fact, that that woman is in varous aspects of course and most certainly "stronger" than you.
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For a man, isn't that what you'd call unfair? Have the cake and eat it too.
But you can't trust someone who is unfair, can't respect it.
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So what makes it so hard to bear that women won't relate to male passive sexual fantasies is:
You don't miss "sexual practices", (you can get those, at the lastest if yopu pay for them, and that's what many males end up doing)
but you miss someone you can trust and respect.
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Get the point?
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