If you know how to pick up women for other things, like going out to dinner, to the movies, or even for sex, then it's the same basic process. The only trouble is, using that process implies that you want sex, so if you suprise her with that right away, it won't work. I suppose the best way would be to pick up a girl at a bar, have sex with her, and if you play your cards right, you can go right into the fantasies and fetishes the next time you have sex. If you don't know how to pick up women at a bar, or anywhere for that matter, read I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell by Tucker Max. Picking up women is not that hard as long as you keep a cool head and don't stutter.