I think this whole condition of male-**********-wish needs proper unbiased serious professional study.
Sure, but what topic doesn't?
I think you left out some (more?) important aspects. Two, I think.

First: When you come around the topic is "males, wanting to be *********".
But in the beginning wasn't it just "males, getting rock hard be the thought of beeing trampled, dominated, taken, kicked in the balls, *********, penectomised, etc"?
You stress the difference between fantasy and reality, but then you focus on the reality. But that is only a small fraction of the aspect or maybe even a different thing with some similarities.
This thread doesn't get so many views/hits because so many males want to be *********. It's because so many find it exiting even though they don't want it to happen.
Do you think this condition also needs more "proper unbiased serious professional study"?
To me it's plain simple, simply because it is what everybody, male and female, wants sometimes.
We want to be treated with attention. And not always just "loving attention". We also have an urge to be a helpless victim, to give away responsibility, to be punished, and to please.
I don't see much mystery in that desire.
Men have passive sexual dreams just as women claim to have.

Second:
women might become more accustomed to ********** if they knew more about it
You are right, that this is hardly ever topic of articles in "Women's Magazines".
But thinking something would change if it was, seems to me putting something the wrong way around. See:
In my book at least, the condition (male passive and ********** fantasies) must be as old as human race itself.
And it is never topic in womens magazines etc.
Conclusion:
Women don't want to "know" about it!

You see, I have the feeling that your theories are to much focused on the male, he is, he wants, he does, etc. I think that will never get you somewhere far as you miss the more important point:
The only thing beeing a "problem" (for males) about this (male passive and ********** fantasies) is that women just won't respond.

A man can have pleasure also in takin responsibility, in beeing active, in beeing agressive and cruel or beeing thoughtful and sensible, in doing something. And men can understand the feelings of the significant other because they also are or have been amongst other men.
See: In a group of men only one is the strongest, the dominant. Men have no problem beeing dominated: It ist called hierarchy.
All men lived as the "weaker" most of theire lives and many (most?) of them will take the task when it's theire turn to be the strongest, the most clever, the leader.
Women won't.

You can see it in our modern societies where women are equally good or better educated than men but still don't have as many leadership positions as men. In germany "quota regulations" are demanded, the situation is still interpreted as discrimination of males against females but only in public beause you and me and you're wife and mine and your friend's and your friends, we all know why that is so:
Women just don't want the leading position.

Sorry about the next -o-last sentence. I wanted to point out that I may be "generalising" here, but that just because i think that in general it is true.
Of coures there are many exceptions.
But as we go nearer to sexual behaviour the less exceptoins we will find.

Bottom line (for this time ):
Don't focus on the male whishes, the male behaviour, the male aspects of this topic to much: It would all be no problem if there wasn't the corresponding, respectively NOT corresponding female aspect.

... Diskordovich?

What do you think about it?

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