Quote Originally Posted by EricaBB View Post
My rule of thumb in avoiding men that could be potentially abusive is to avoid those who speak often about how they fought a lot as kids, and continue to mention how they could "beat the shit out of" any particular person. Anyone with a tendency towards violence against men, is one step closer to violence toward women. Also, men who wear urban clothing and come from the inner city or have lived a life of hardships, the such... If you've gone to jail or dropped out of high school... Basically white trash are those to avoid. I don't mean to jump to conclusions about people but it's nessecary to save your own ass. Also -- if someone shows constant and unpredictable depression or anger, I tend to avoid them. Indeed, this can not protect us from the a random abusive nature, but this is just shit luck.

Also... I've never had experience in fighting. I've never been a fighter. People have the power to learn self defense, but even if I did, I'd be shit outta luck. Knowing my frail structure, it would take a few good blows from a brute to take me down for good. Thankfully, people rarely have confrontations, and when they do, it isn't just "There's someone smaller than me, I'll go beat them senseless without warning". Generally someone who can understand when an argument is getting out of hand knows when to get the hell out of the situation. Fight or Flight? Definitely flight.

PS: Ich habe nie ausserhalb die Vereinigten Staaten angereist.
PSPS: Ich komme aus die V.S.
Hi Erica,

I hope you're well. It's lovely to hear from you again. There is much wisdom in your comments re: how some men speak of violence. Yes, you're "jumping to conclusions" based on someone's attire and background. But, if someone can't leave a "hardship" background behind them and is bitter or resentful towards the world, I see your point. However, as I mentioned in a previous posting; some people change over time. But, many women can't or won't leave men that, have become angry and bitter.

Yes, I agree when presented with the choice of "Fight or flight", flight is the better course of action. It's what I teach my students. Sometimes, I have the opportunity give instruction to classes in "unarmed combat". However, it is quite clear you have a misunderstanding of what self-defence or "unarmed combat" is. Granted, there are many bad courses and bad instructors out there.

The best system is Krav Maga, in my opinion. In this system, the goal is to disable or kill your enemy.. quickly, in one or two strikes. It's not about "fighting" or trading blows with an assailant. You're correct; the majority of us are not going to being able to "fight" with a man and win. They almost always have a height and weight advantage. Also, far greater upper chest strength, coupled with a longer reach. However, (if done correctly) one can deliver an incapacitating blow or two, to the eyes, throat, and or testes. Some of these blows can be fatal. AND it doesn't require a great deal of strength to do so. Merely, the "will" to do it.

The problem is; many women aren't willing to act in such a brutal way. Many women are battered or assaulted by someone they know. They aren't prepared to be so vicious that, they might kill or cripple someone close to them. For them, it would be difficult enough with a stranger. It's how we're reared and socialised. "Sugar and spice, and everything nice." This is the correct "Americanism", yes?


Warm regards,
Messalina

P.S. Das ist schade.
P.S.P.S. Ich lebe und arbeite in Amerika, zur Zeit.