Quote Originally Posted by Messalina View Post
Hello Sebi40,

Lovely, to hear from you. I am pleased, you realised not all Muslim women are submissive. Yes, a good many are. However, not all are willing to subordinate themselves to their husbands even under threat of violence. Sometime ago, I was working in an Islamic country in which, it was part of the accepted culture for husbands to beat their wives. One of my Islamic (male) colleagues announced and invited me to his wedding. The woman he wed is a Muslim. Also, she is an American woman who, moved to his country to care for aging relatives. She and I became close friends.

We worked together on a project to benefit refugee women and their dependents. Many of these women suffered abuse at the hands of foreign fighters and from the men in their lives. One day; my Muslim friend, an international aid worker and I were having lunch. Somehow, violence against women in that part of the world came up. Also, how systemic it was. Before I could stop her, the aid worker asked if, my Muslim friend's husband had ever mistreated her. She responded "Only once". Naturally, the woman said "What happened?". Since, my colleague's wife decided to speak on the matter, I ceased trying to quiet the aid worker. My new found friend responded "I planted my foot so far up between his legs that, he never raised a hand to me again".

The aid worker laughed and even cheered. However, my Muslim friend's face was grim. I asked the Canadian woman to excuse us, so that I could speak intimately. When she departed, I said "Tell me". She replied "I lost my temper, I lost control". I nodded in understanding. She had not 'measured' her kick, to her man's privates. Her newlywed husband had required surgery. Also, whilst it is theoretically 'possible', (in reality) it is very unlikely they will be able to have children.

I am pleased matters seemed to have worked out, for your Pakistani subordinate. Indeed, I am especially gratified to learn his wife did not sacrifice years of education and training, to a sexist tradition.

"I really love those two sentences. Your husband is a lucky man. Thank you. I like to think that, we enjoy a symbiotic relationship.

No, I do not "have a Fetlife account".

Messalina

Hi Messalina,

Thank you for your answer
Your story rose a question on my side.
She may cas*trate her husband with that kick and I understood her face was grim because they could not have children anymore.
Bering a muslim woman will be harder for her to accept having children with another man.

But assuming a couple have children already, would you consider a wife being OK to spend her life near a cas*trate man?
There are books underling clear advantages for a cas*trate husband from wife point of view (focusing on important things, no cheating, no domestic violence and so on)
still the sexual relation / satisfaction for the woman can remain a problem
do she need another man to satisfy her?

When I was a kid I read 1001 Arabian nights books. There it was a clear distinction between an eunuch and a man/bull and any heroine in those stories needed both

How are you seeing this?

Sebastian